Monthly Archives: October 2013

My Vision for You: A Blog Post in Pictures

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As you know, I’ve been working on healing my chakras. I ran out of canvases this weekend and had to improvise. Instead of starting my 4th chakra painting (the Type A in me has to have my chakra paintings all on canvases the same size!), I painted a story for you. I hope you like it. It’s my vision for us, for this community.

I see in all of us a fire, a passion, a calling.


But so many times, it gets lost in the shuffle; our dreams pushed aside for what we think we should do, what others want us to do.

And yet… we are Goddesses, Divinely inspired.



And so our dreams wait, drifting along while we float unconsciously through our lives.

 floating clouds

And one day our heart Calls to us.


And we can no longer ignore it. Because we hold in our hands the cup of life, but our cup has run dry.

 cup of overflow

But as we look closer, we realize it wasn’t dry at all. It was dormant, a seed waiting to reach up to the surface, to emerge from within and touch the sky, to blossom and bloom. And so we do.

 seeds and flowers

And as we bloom, we open the floodgates. And all of that wisdom, light, glory that we had stuffed somewhere down inside of ourselves comes gushing out – a waterfall of emotion – of happiness and sadness, grief and hope, loss and joy. And we can contain it no longer.


And we find out joy, rekindle our passion, and start again – and, of course, there’s lots of chocolate and ice cream involved. 🙂

ice cream

 May you find your passion and have the strength to embrace it.


Goddess Mary

Do-ing v. Be-ing

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third chakra

During a guided mediation a few weeks ago, I received a gentle nudging from the Universe that I need to heal my root and sacral chakras. As it had been a while since I worked with chakra energies, I set about re-familiarizing myself with them. If you’ve been following my blog, you know that I’ve worked through the first two chakras, but I’m not stopping there. This week is on to the Solar Plexus (third) chakra.

The Solar Plexus chakra, located in the center of the chest, is our personal power center. It holds our dreams, hopes, fears, and beliefs about ourselves and the world around us. It’s our confidence in and respect for ourselves. It’s also our ability to receive and listen to our intuition.

A few weeks ago, my intuition and the Universe lead me to read Inna Segal’s book The Secret Life of Wellness. Segal argues that each of us has a life purpose, something we were brought on earth to do, but many of us lose our Soul’s Purpose somewhere along the way. Having been told as much by my Inner Goddess in April, the idea of losing and wanting to reconnect with my Soul’s Purpose was something I could clearly relate to.  But before I could truly reconnect, I needed to heal.

What I’ve come to realize over the past few weeks as I’ve worked with healing my chakra energies is that I am spending way too much time Do-ing instead of Be-ing. And while you might think the lesson of the Solar Plexus chakra would be to embrace your personal power by Do-ing more, it’s really not. The lesson I’ve learned this past few weeks is that just as there must be a balance of masculine and feminine, receiving and giving, there must be a balance of do-ing and be-ing. Danielle LaPorte says that when she makes her New Year’s Resolutions, it’s all about how she wants to feel that year. And that’s what I mean by balancing do-ing and be-ing.

Instead of looking at your day as an endless to do list, what if you started each day with a question:

“At the end of the day, how do I want to feel?”

After you ponder that one, you can ask yourself,

“What will make me feel that way?”

So yesterday, I challenged myself to spend an entire day Be-ing instead of Do-ing. Yes, I ‘did’ things, but it was based on my feelings, not my to-do list. And it was wonderful. I started my morning with a very productive and inspirational phone call with my friend Lisa Marie Rosati. Then, inspired by the feelings that emerged in that phone call, I got out my trusty purple pen and paper and spent most of my day working on my Vision statements for my two businesses. I dreamt of where I wanted to take my businesses, what courses I might want to offer, and what I could do to best serve you, my community. I came away feeling blessed and inspired. In the coming months I’ll share some of what I dreamed up. In the meantime, know that I am working on dreams of women’s circles, books, and ecourses to help you heal and transform your life. And you can bet there will be some chakra healing work involved as I move on this week to my heart (4th) chakra. More to come…

Have a great, inspired week and try living a day – or even an hour or two – Be-ing instead of Do-ing. It’s wonderfully refreshing and transformational.

Balancing Masculine and Feminine

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2nd chakraIf you’ve been following my blog, you know that I am in the middle of a journey to heal my chakras. Last week I started healing my second chakra and hoped to be onto my third chakra by now. Best laid plans and all that…

A few hours after writing my second chakra post, I was in the middle of a meeting with a magazine editor, when the editor’s friend Lori popped in to say hi. After introductions were made, Lori saw my crutches and asked me what was wrong. I told her that I had broken my heel. Instead of the typical, “How did you do that?” question that usually follows my heel breaking proclamation, she asked me, “Why did you do that?”

I was stumped. What did she mean Why did I break my heel? It’s not like it was intentional. She peered at me, waiting for my answer. The editor I was there to see explained to me, “Lori’s an intuitive.”

Lori asked again, “Why did you break your heel?”

It took me a few days to come up with an answer. (And no, I never saw her again, so I didn’t get a chance to explain my why to her. But that’s not the point, is it?)

To make a long story short, as you may know, I first broke my heel over a year ago. After months of slow healing and mulling the “why” over, I thought it was a sign that I was following the wrong path (see my About page for more on that).

Yet, I have changed what I thought the Universe was asking me to change and here I am in the exact same place I was a year ago. Frustrated, I began journaling and soul searching for the answer to my “why” and this is what I came up with: Yes, I changed the topic of the book I was writing, I started a new business to fulfill my soul’s purpose, I met the ‘right’ people and did the ‘right’ things, but I was still operating under the old model – one that no longer works for me.

When I received my Rude Awakening back in April, the message centered around the fact that I had been suppressing my feminine side – my intuitive nature – for too long. It was time to stop being so logical and ‘masculine’ and reconnect with the feminine essence. Although I starting writing about intuition and getting in touch with the feminine, I was doing it in a masculine way. I was still planning and organizing and crossing all of my I’s and dotting all of my T’s rather than letting it flow. Yes, the writing flowed from me like water, but my life did not. In other words, I haven’t been taking my own advice! I have become skilled at telling you how to connect with your intuition, but have I been doing what I advise you to do? In a nutshell, no.

My re-broken heel is letting me know that writing about using your intuition isn’t enough. You have to actually use that intuition on a daily basis! This reminds me of a recent lecture by Shiloh Sophia McCloud. She explained that while women are perfectly capable of acting in logical, ‘masculine’ ways, to the extent that counteracts the woman’s own nature, she will burn out pretty quickly. Or, in my case, keep breaking my heel.

In the past week, I have found myself in numerous conversations with my fellow female academicians about this imbalance of masculine and feminine energy. Academia, as is much of corporate America, is very masculine dominant – not just in the people in the field, but in the energy you need to ‘succeed’ in the field. I am fortunate enough to be on sabbatical this semester, giving me the opportunity to explore this issue, heal my chakras, and my heel while I write my books. But a friend and fellow academic recently asked me, “What are you going to do when you have to go back to teaching in January?” I honestly don’t know and the question itself frightens me.

I know me and I know how easily I can get sucked into doing instead of being, striving instead of living. And if I find myself struggling to balance my masculine and feminine now – at a time when I am relatively free to spend my time as I choose and work on projects I want to work on – what will happen when the masculine pressure is back in full force next year?

This brings me back to Shiloh’s talk. I think what Shiloh was trying to say was this:

we have a choice in much more of our lives than we think.

Yes, academia is a very masculine world, but is that in part because I expect it to be and answer the call on that level? Why can’t I change that – at least for me? Why can’t I go back to that world still choosing to make decisions that are in line with my intuition?

Of course that means that in the meantime, I need to figure out how to do that from where I am right now. I am still painting (see above for my 2nd chakra rendition). I am trying to find balance – a way to honor my obligations while still living as much of the time as I can by my intuition. Lest I fall back into my old way of thinking, I plugged a daily reminder into my iPhone that says, “Why did you break your heel?”

Because sometimes the Why really is more important than the How.