Barbara Wilder’s greatest passion is to bring Light into the dark corners of our hearts and minds and help shift human consciousness into the vibration of universal love. Author of the widely acclaimed “Embracing Your Power Woman” & “Money is Love,” she’s an extraordinarily gifted intuitive healer, coach and teacher, focusing on embodying the Divine Feminine in every aspect of life. Deepak Chopra says, “…she teaches women how to access and nourish their deepest selves.”
What does being an Everyday Goddess mean to you?
Being an Everyday Goddess for me means being an expression of the Divine Feminine in my daily life and in my work. Our society is out of balance because the Goddess has been shunned and demonized for several thousand years. For our world to become a place of peace, joy, and abundance, the Goddess must be returned to her position as the Divine Mother of All once again, and Her blessings of love, nurture, caring, and sharing, to name a few, must be given a place of honor in our society. My greatest passion is to help this evolution and reconnection to Divine feminine power become grounded in the world through my own personal life and my work, helping as many women as I can experience and express their true powerful Goddess natures.
At what age did you awaken to the presence of the Divine Feminine and would you describe it as a sudden awakening or a gentle unfolding?
As a little girl I was very connected with the fairy world. I saw and talked to them in my garden. My family said I had a vivid imagination. Of course, later I learned that the Goddess cultures of ancient times all recognized the fairy world. They are the spirits of the trees, flowers, streams, all the parts of the Great Goddess, the Divine Mother Earth. I was a part of the feminist movement in the 70s and 80s. I personally worked in the motion picture industry where I broke down barriers and held jobs that had traditionally had been only held by men. Though I did achieve a level of success, the movie industry really was an uncomfortable fit for me. I wasn’t able to adjust my emotional senses to a setting that would numb me enough to play in that dog-eat-dog arena.
I knew I was powerful, but I could sense that it was a different kind of power than the dominating kind of power or power over others. I didn’t like the idea of “making a killing” in a deal. But I did want success. I wanted to express all of who I knew I was since my childhood talking with the fairies. Btw: My talks with the fairies didn’t stop in childhood. I am in communication with them daily and have been throughout my life. Then when I was 45 I went to England to be married. For foreigners to get married in England one member of the couple must live there for 3 weeks. So, I went ahead of my fiancé to meet the requirement. I thought of it as my “bride time.” It was a true Goddess time for me. I walked along the beautiful rivers, had spa days, and planned the wedding. During that time I ventured into a Stone Circle called The Maumbury Rings had an experience that changed my life forever. When I entered the Rings I suddenly felt like I’d entered another dimension. I walked to the center and sat down on the wet grass. And suddenly I was surrounded by a dark violet mist and the sound of drums began to fill my ears and vibrate through my body. And then I had an extraordinary vision of pre-historic women dancing around open fire pits with drummers beating out the rhythm of what I felt was the heartbeat of the Earth herself. And I saw in the faces of these ancient women a fierceness like nothing I’d ever seen, and I realized that it was the untamed feminine power that ferociously nurtured the fledgling human race and kept it alive in an untamed wilderness world. In that moment I awakened to the true magnificence of power of the Divine Feminine, and I have been teaching, and writing about it ever since.
What roles in your life had to transform in order for you to live authentically?
I don’t think I had to deal with this as much as some. I have striven all my life to live authentically. I got married when I was 18 and a sophomore in college, because I was studying to be an actress, and I didn’t want the distraction of dating and sex to get in the way of my career, so I got myself a permanent date. And after college I packed up my husband and one year old baby and moved to L.A. to pursue my acting career. This was in the sixties, when women with children stayed home, and their husbands went to work. Most of America was still living in the Leave it to Beaver and Father Knows Best mentality. I always worked, and I always aspired to follow my dreams and my calling. The one traditional role that I did adhere to was my role as mother to my son. No matter what else I was doing, I was first and foremost a mother. That role I would never change.
What have been some of the greatest inner gifts you’ve experienced since stepping into your feminine power?
Though I felt like I was powerful as a woman in the first half of my life, it was in the transition into the second half of my life that I stepped into my true feminine power. And the gifts have been amazing. I have connected with my true calling as a spiritual teacher, visionary, author and transformer. I realized at 50 that there was an incredible change taking place inside of me as I entered menopause, and that instead of getting weaker, as was the expectation, I was actually getting stronger. As I explored this awesome experience I came to realize that with the death of my child-bearing biology a new powerful person was gestating in my metaphorical womb. I began teaching other women about what I dubbed the birth of our Power Woman. I realized that now that we are living so much longer women in the second half of life have the potential to become the most powerful force for good and change in the world. We have immense life experience in all fields, and when we connect with our true feminine powers of love, caring, sharing, nurturing and creating, match them with our knowledge, wisdom and experience, and then put our second half of life juice into them we are unstoppable. My course became a book called, Embracing Your Power Woman: 11 Steps to Coming of Age in Mid-Life, which was enthusiastically endorsed by Deepak Chopra, Shirley MacLaine, Jean Houston, Caroline Myss, and other strong voices in the community. Around the same time I began my work in the field of Sacred Economics, and actually my first book Money Is Love: Reconnecting to the Sacred Origins of Money is considered to be one of the foundational works in the field. The philosophy espouses reconnecting Money with the Divine Feminine principles of Love, caring, sharing, and abundance for All, to replace the crumbling fear-based economy, and create a new love-based economy. I’m working on a new book now called Creating a Sacred Marketplace which will be out in 2014.
Can you share some of your favorite sacred feminine rituals?
I meditate every morning in front of my altar, where Kuan Yin, the Chinese Goddess of Compassion (She is actually the feminine expression of the Buddha) is the anchor. She is flanked on one side by Kali the Great Goddess of all creation and destruction, the cycle of death and rebirth, and on the other side by Lakshmi, the Hindu Goddess of all the abundance of the Divine Mother Earth. I call them into my mediations to support and teach me their wisdom. I bring them flowers, and flower essences. I Light candles in their honor. I spend time sitting in nature in my own garden and in the wild chatting with my fairy friends who have always been with me. I swim in sacred pools wherever I find them in the world, immersing myself in the water of the Divine Mother. I sit on the beach and allow the creative force that is our Mother’s huge ocean to wash into me, and I give thanks to Her and give Her blessings, often by throwing flowers into Her powerful waters.
Is there a particular Goddess that you are intimately drawn to and why?
I have told you about Kuan Yin, Kali, and Lakshmi in my response to the earlier question. I think the other Goddesses who call to me are the Marys. Mother Mary, and Mary Magdalene. As a child I was drawn to the story of Jesus and his Mother Mary. I felt like I knew them, and possibly I did in a former life. As a child I think I loved Mother Mary because of her sweetness. What I have come to understand about her now is the power and strength that was or is also present and a part of her sweetness. I’m learning that being sweet and dear and kind is not separate from being powerful and strong. Together they are the qualities of the Divine Feminine. As an adult I came to love Mary Magdalene as well. I never felt good about Jesus not having a wife. And I never, even as a child, felt that Mary Magdalene was bad. She always fascinated me especially as I became a teenager.
Is there a personal message that you would like to share with women?
The personal message that I would like to share with my sisters is first that we are sisters, and when we love each other and support each other we are strong, and when we compete with and criticize each other we weaken ourselves and each other. We are meant to join our powerful feminine voices together in one song — A song of Peace, Joy, Abundance, Creativity, Caring, Sharing, Healing and you name it. When we do that we can change the world. We are the hope of the world. And in loving ourselves and each other we will set a luscious Goddess example for the fellas as well. Feminine wisdom is absolutely necessary to carry the human race into the new era. We have the Power — the Power create a beautiful new world where all our children and grandchildren can thrive.
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