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Learning to Love My Body – All of It

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day 2 SSI recently signed up for Hannah Marcotti’s 2-week long sexy and sanguine course. I figured it would be a good learning experience for me as I work this year on loving me. When I signed up for the course, I knew we would be receiving daily prompts and lessons. We were warned to have a journal, pen, and a camera ready. For some reason, I envisioned journal prompts and taking pictures of things that inspired us. I was wrong.

On day 1 of the course I realized that we needed a camera so we could take pictures of ourselves and post them on Hannah’s private Facebook group page. Oh no. Not happening. And so I ignored those daily emails, letting them pile up in my inbox. Until the last day of the course – Day 14.

Because that’s when it hit me. By refusing to take pictures of myself, I was refusing me at my very core.

I’ve never been one for getting my picture taken. It’s not that I don’t like what I look like; it’s that I’m not very photogenic. So what I see in the mirror and what comes out on camera seem like two totally different things to me. The only time I’ve been proud of what I looked like in pictures was last fall when I was being photographed as part of a cover shoot. I loved the way those pictures turned out. But that’s what having a professional hair and make-up artist, professional photographer, and a little photo shop does for you. Pores? Gone. Wrinkles? Gone. Imperfections? Gone. The few people who have seen those images of me say that they don’t even look like me. Now I get why Cindy Crawford was once quoted as saying, “I wish I looked like Cindy Crawford!”

But she doesn’t. And neither did I – look like myself in my cover shoot. And I found myself torn about this. On the one hand, I finally loved pictures of myself. On the other hand, people who know me say those pictures are gorgeous but don’t look like me. So I’m doing an experiment. I’m putting it all out there. Next week is media influence week in my Psychology of Eating class. I am leading with BuzzFeed Video’s recent campaign of real women being photoshopped and their reactions to their pictures (similar to my reaction, they were confused about what to think). And then I’m showing my before and after photoshop shots so the students can see what I really look like (which they see every day), what I look like after 2 hours of hair and make-up (unretouched photos), and what I look like after those ‘cover shots’ have been photoshopped.

Preparing that lecture was kind of depressing, really. It made me realize that my ‘cover girl shot’ looks nothing like me. And I’m not sure what to think about that. When you’re trying to learn to love yourself and love your body maybe viewing photoshopped images of yourself isn’t the best idea.

On the plus side, it motivated me to actually start Hannah Marcotti’s challenge. I’m on Day 2. I’m journaling, I’m figuring out what makes me feel sexy and sanguine, and I’m posting pictures of random body parts on Facebook (see my shoulder shot above)! My goal is to go further than Hannah’s challenge though. I want to not just take pictures of my body, but learn to love what it looks like too – the unphotoshopped, real version of me. So I’m adding hearts and words to my skin so that when I see these images I will remember: I am love.

Join me.

day 1 SS

 

 

Picking Apart at Myself

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picking apart at myselfLast week I gave three talks on self-love. I was amazed at the audience reactions. During the first talk, I opened with Christine Arylo’s definition of self-love:

“Self-love is the unconditional love and respect you have for yourself that is so deep, so solid, so unwavering that you choose only situations and relationships – including the one you have with yourself – that reflect that same unconditional love and respect.”

Immediately a hand went up. “You don’t mean what I say to myself when I look in the mirror, right?”

“Is that showing you unconditional love and respect?” I countered.

“Well no, but that’s my body… Wait – you mean the negative conversations I have with myself every time I get dressed are not self-love?” she asked.

“No,” I informed her.

She was shocked and asked the women around her to back her up on this fact that your body is different from yourself.

Everyone laughed self-consciously as the realization dawned. Your body is you. By picking apart at ourselves, we are not showing our bodies, minds, or spirits the love and respect they deserve. Yet, we do it anyway, and I am, perhaps, one of the worst offenders. Not necessarily in what I say to myself but with my incessant picking.

I look in the mirror and see imperfection. I pick, poke, pluck, prod, ineffectively trying to remove any blockage, blackhead, whitehead, stray hair. I succeed in making things worse. I know I’m not alone in this. As women, we are our own worst critics, our own worst enemies.

I don’t care whether it’s fat talk, dieting, or popping zits. It’s all manifestations of the same thing – we pick apart at ourselves because we can’t stand to be less than. And for whatever reason, we’ve fixated on a certain aspect of ourselves that we tend to pick on more. But therein lays the problem. By picking apart at ourselves, we are sending ourselves the message that we’re never going to be good enough, worthy, perfect.

What we need to realize is that it’s okay to be vulnerable. It’s okay to not be perfect. It’s okay to just be you.

So do yourself a favor this week. When you start picking apart at yourself – in whatever form that takes – stop. Give yourself some love and affection instead. Let’s take a pledge, shall we: I promise not to [insert negative habit: pick apart at myself, talk bad about myself, etc.] for one week. Every time I catch myself [picking], I will tell myself “I love you just the way you are” (or some other affirmation).  If I make it through a whole hour (better yet, day) without [picking], I will reward myself by ________. Sound good? Let’s get started! Your brain – and your body – will thank you for it.

 

Featured GODDESS: Brigid

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brigidBrigid

Goddess of the Sacred Flame

“I am the spark of life. Call upon me for Inspiration, Healing, and Grounding your energy.”

 

Traits Brigid Embodies:

  • Healing
  • Inspiration
  • Fertility
  • Creativity
  • Youthfulness

 

How to call on Brigid:

Brigid was the Celtic Triple Goddess, though she appeared most often in her maiden form. In her maiden aspect, Brigid was Goddess of Inspiration and patroness of poetry. In her mother form, she was Goddess of the Hearth, patroness of healing and fertility. In her crone form, Brigid was Goddess of the Forge, patroness of smithcraft and martial arts. A predecessor to the American Groundhog Day, in ancient times people turned to Brigid to forecast the remaining days of Winter on February 2nd. Instead of the American Punxsutawney Phil, ancient people’s awaited Brigid’s sacred snake to emerge from his cave. The snake’s behavior indicated whether or not Winter was over. Brigid is said to reside in wells and streams. Thus, you will most likely feel her presence near running water or wells.

 

 

Prayer to Brigid:

Brigid, Spark of Life,

Sacred Flame

I call upon you,

Hear my name. [Say your name]

Great Goddess,

Hear my prayer

I seek your [whatever trait you want to embody]

To [whatever you need this trait in order to accomplish]

Goddess, I ask you to grant me this power.

In this I pray.

Thank you, Great Goddess!

 

Tribute to Brigid:

 In ancient times, the Celts would offer coins to one of the many wells and streams named for the Goddess Brigid. Although you may not live in Ireland, you may still offering a tribute of a coin to Brigid at any well or body of running water.

 

Everyday GODDESS: Dina Proctor

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dina proctorDina Proctor is best-selling author of Madly Chasing Peace: How I Went From Hell to Happy in Nine Minutes a Day. After hitting emotional rock-bottom, she -quite unintentionally!- created a process called 3×3 Meditation (3 minutes, 3 times a day) that enabled her to transform every aspect of her life. From weight loss and banishing addictive cravings to reconstructing relationships, this simple and yet incredibly effective method is now helping thousands of others improve their lives too.

What does being am Everyday Goddess mean to you?

Love this question! For me, being an everyday goddess is to live fully my innermost essence of love, peace and ultimate well-being in my physical life. It’s knowing that I am one with the Universe and connected to all of life. It’s seeing the soul-essence in everyone I meet. It’s surrendering old limiting beliefs and judgments and seeing the world from the fresh perspective of curiosity, ceaseless optimism, and the great knowing that anything I want to create in my world (from my body to relationships to fulfillment and abundance) starts with my own mindset and reflects outward from there.

 

At what age did you awaken to the presence of the Divine Feminine and would you describe it as a sudden awakening or a gentle unfolding?

I was a late bloomer! I remember exactly when my awakening experience happened – it was February 2009 and I was 32 years old. Mine was a rather sudden awakening – just weeks earlier I was in suicidal depression and hopelessly addicted to alcohol. I thought there was no hope for myself or my life, I had tried everything I could think of to fix myself, and I just wanted to escape my inner anguish. About 8 weeks after I began meditating (which for me was 3 minutes at a time) I found myself in what I can only describe as a state of higher consciousness for a 3-day period that February. During those days I was super-present in each moment, my conscious awareness was literally above and outside my body, and I had absolutely zero mind chatter. It was a state of deep, bottomless bliss, and I fell in love with everyone I met because all I could see were their soul-essences. I was let in on the secrets of life during those 3 days and it was an unforgettable and unmistakable turning and transformation point for my life.

 

What roles in your life had to transform in order for you to live authentically?

For me the question is: What roles haven’t I transformed?! I can’t name an aspect of my life that hasn’t completely transformed in the last five years. I have a brand new outlook and perspective on life. I am a different person in my relationships, I have access to an inner freedom I never even knew was possible, and (for the first time in my life) have a healthy perspective on my body and food. I am no longer plugging my power cord into food, men, alcohol and money – I know the only place I can find empowerment and fulfillment is by plugging into the Source of eternal peace, wisdom and joy within – and even better – I know exactly how to do it!

 

What have been some of the greatest inner gifts you’ve experienced since stepping into your feminine power?

Inner peace is the biggest gift I’ve received. If I knew it was possible to feel this happy and peaceful on a daily basis I never would have used alcohol to numb myself. I’m the happiest person I know! I love my life and I’m living a dream I never even knew I had. Who knew I was a writer? Who knew I would leave the shame of my past behind and use it to teach others? Who knew I would find the courage to leave the security of my day job to start my own coaching business? I’m finally coming to realize how to have a life where dreams not only come true but completely exceed your expectations!

Can you share some of your favorite sacred feminine rituals?

My favorite time of day is the early, early morning. I love waking up before the sun, and before anyone else. Those first silent sacred moments are mine alone, and I deeply connect to my inner wisdom during those sacred moments in a way that shapes my entire day. I also love slow walks, connecting with trees and flowers, stretching my body’s muscles in simple yoga poses, and I love the ritual of making and enjoying tea. But by far, I think my favorite and most powerful ritual is my 3×3 Meditation practice.

 

Is there a particular Goddess that you are intimately drawn to and why?

Mother Teresa is my biggest inspiration! I love that by intention and prayer alone she became a great force for good in this world. She is a phenomenal example of using your inner power and wisdom to create real change and tangible results in the world.

 

Is there a personal message that you would like to share with women?  

Yes, yes, YES! I would love for women to know that no matter where you are, no matter what’s happened, no matter where you’ve been or what you’ve done, it can always get better. I was stuck in clinical depression for years and part of me wouldn’t have believed these words just five short years ago. But I know -and am living proof!- that you can transform any aspect of your life you’d like to by using small pockets of time and your ability to focus on your center of higher wisdom, to create absolutely ANYTHING you want for your life!

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What is Self-Love?

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“Self-love is the unconditional love and respect you have for yourself that is so deep, so solid, so unwavering that you choose only situations and relationships – including the one you have with yourself – that reflect that same unconditional love and respect.” – Christine Arylo

hand over heartAs you know, I’ve spent the last several months trying to find and learn to love myself again. I feel so passionately that lack of self-love is one of the biggest sources of grief, stress, and pain in the modern woman that I am hosting a telecall and starting a local women’s group  all in an effort to teach women how to bring more self-love into their lives. I wish I could bring each of you into my home, sit you down, and tell you how wonderful you are! But as we don’t all live in the same place and my home is not that big, I cannot do that. What I can do is to bring the lessons I am teaching my circle to you via the blog and telecalls.

I shared last week that 2014 is going to be the Year of Me. One of the ways I am choosing to Honor myself this year is by focusing on a different branch of Christine Arylo’s self-love tree each week/month/however long it takes. I hope to do this in my women’s circle as well – focusing on one branch per month as we re-learn to love ourselves and explore our own sense of self-worth.

2013 drained me so much that I feel like I am starting over. I keep having to go back and re-read portions of Madly in Love with Me because I think I have it only to soon realize I have already forgotten what it means to love and take care of myself.

This past weekend is a perfect example. At 6:00 last night (Sunday), I started freaking out because although I worked all weekend, I still wasn’t caught up. I frantically tried to get more done – wanting to cross everything off my to-do list. By 6:30, I was an anxiety-ridden mess and had only managed to ‘accomplish’ one more thing. And had forgotten to eat again.

I made myself stop. Walked away from my laptop. Made myself some dinner, sat on my couch and went back to Madly in Love with Me. Because if I’ve learned anything over these past few months it’s what self-love is not: and let me tell you, nowhere in the self-love guide does it recommend running yourself ragged. (Believe me. I checked!)

Instead, the message I received loud and clear was that I needed to work more on self-compassion and self-forgiveness. I’m not perfect. No one is. And that’s okay. In fact, I am doing the best I can in this moment – whatever that is.

Silencing my inner perfectionist has always been a challenge for me, but last night she got out of hand. So I learned to stop and breathe and realized that everything will be okay. What gets done gets done, what doesn’t get done doesn’t. There’s always tomorrow – or never. Because if I’m honest with myself, I know that I put a lot more on my plate than actually needs to be there. So I’m going back to my 80/20 rule. Say yes to 20% of the things that people ask me to take on that I really want to do (say no to everything that doesn’t resonate with my soul) and give them 80% effort. That way I still have time to take care of me.

That’s self-love, self-compassion. And self-forgiveness comes in as I forgive myself for not taking on everything and giving 110%. Because 110% doesn’t even exist and all I’m doing by trying to accomplish the impossible is setting myself up for more self-criticism and blame. That’s not a loving thing to do at all.

So, in this month of Love (Valentine’s Day is just around the corner), I am committing to Loving Me more. And I’m starting my journey with the realization and acceptance of the fact that I can’t do everything for everyone and that’s okay.

How will you show yourself love today?

 

 

Everyday GODDESS: Sara Wiseman

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sarawiseman headshotSara Wiseman is a spiritual teacher, intuitive and author of six insightful books on spirituality and intuition. She is the founder of Intuition University, hosts the popular radio show Ask Sara, and is a top contributor to DailyOM, VividLife, InspireMeToday, Aspire Magazine and more.

What does being an Everyday Goddess mean to you?

This life is a miracle, and to be an Everyday Goddess is to live this truth in all the ways we can —mind, body and soul. That means being fully ourselves, in all the authentic, quirky, flawed and amazing ways we are. It means living fully in our bodies, exactly as they are right this minute, with full appreciation. And it means living our dreams now—not waiting for later, but creating lives of passion and meaning, every single day.

 

At what age did you awaken to the presence of the Divine Feminine and would you describe it as a sudden awakening or a gentle unfolding?

I think I’ve always understood myself this way. As a child I was highly intuitive, yet I also was a bit of a tomboy—I had freedom to roam around and explore perhaps more than most girls my age, and this built confidence and the awareness of “me being able to take care of me” at any time. My parents allowed me to explore my own quirky interests, which even as young child were all centered around spirituality and mystic experiences. And, that said: I never quite fit in with others, so I became myself instead. I highly recommend this approach!

 

What roles in your life had to transform in order for you to live authentically?

As happens for many women, I had to sacrifice almost everything in order to step into my true adult self: a near death experience, the death of my father, divorce after 18 years of marriage and three children, loss of job… a giant chaotic clearing that happened all at once. The Universe is always asking us to expand to our highest self, and if we are stuck, the Universe will “nudge” us to make these transformative changes. It’s hard when it happens, but when you get through it you understand why.

 

What have been some of the greatest inner gifts you’ve experienced since stepping into your feminine power?

My intuition and my spirituality. During the dark chaos mentioned above, I just kept surrendering down to the Divine, and the more I surrendered, the more transparent I became. My intuition opened fully, and I had a spiritual awakening that changed everything. Many people, not just women, are having this kind of experience now. The gift of spiritual intuition, which is utterly Divine Feminine, allowed me to live my life in a way that finally felt like “me”. Like coming home.

Can you share some of your favorite sacred feminine rituals?

Well, I’m still a mom with kids at home—so that’s a lot of feminine service! My practice is very busy too, so that’s more service to others, which love. Yet still, I live a fairly contemplative life—I do sacred practice every day: intuitive practices, journaling, meditation, body awareness, being in nature. As an example of a softer ritual: I sit out under the trees in all weather, and simply listen. As an example of a more mystic ritual: I head outside whenever there’s a full moon, and hold wonder for this life.

 

Is there a particular Goddess that you are intimately drawn to and why?

I am not sure of the name of this Goddess, but I would call her Goddess of the Trees. In Celtic tradition, trees were considered sacred beings; I adore this view and it resonates deeply with me. Trees are the ultimate Divine Feminine; they are deeply rooted, yet they also lean toward the Light. They nurture and harbor all creatures who come to them. They are patient in their spot, and they weather changes with grace.

 

Is there a personal message that you would like to share with women?  

Don’t be afraid to be yourself, even if it’s not “mainstream” or “what everyone else is doing”. Get quirky! Be you! We are each unique, and the Goddess shows up in different ways for each of us. Let go of fear, tap into your own innate intuition, live as a sacred being having an earth experience, and step into your own truth. Don’t waste another minute— become a woman who lives exactly as herself, in all the ways this can be. You are Divine!

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Everyday GODDESS: Laura Clark

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lpcLaura’s passion is teaching a unique blend of spiritual awakening tools that create breakthroughs that allow women to achieve their goals and aspirations. These tools allow chaotic chatter in and around them to be silenced, calm emotions and ground self in their own inner strength. Through her work, Laura shows that it is not only possible to see one’s own brilliance but how one can truly live in-joy at all times.

What does being an Everyday Goddess mean to you?

An Everyday Goddess lives in-joy. By having the ability to quiet down the gremlins in her head (and she knows they are there) and soothing her emotions, she is able to hear the whispers of her soul. To live fully in-joy, she embraces her inner wisdom and allows her soul to guide her toward her best self.

The Everyday Goddess acknowledges her weaknesses for in that owning of them she is better able to step forward in her own brilliance!  She, unapologetically, strives to live in that space of brilliance and the joy it brings at all times.

By embracing all that she is, the Everyday Goddess is loyal and kind, compassionate and strong and sheds love and light into the world in her own unique way.

 

At what age did you awaken to the presence of the Divine Feminine and would you describe it as a sudden awakening or a gentle unfolding?

For me, I began to understand the Divine Feminine when I was 33 and it only took a breath. I was living in a constant state of depression and had started with a new counselor. He had me lie down on the floor and put a book on my abdomen and asked me to breathe.. The book on my abdomen did not even move. My breath was short and shallow. I discovered then and there how I was not allowing myself to breathe at all – physically and spiritually. Of  course, it took time and effort to go from that woman to an awakening one (I say awakening because I know there are new and beautiful unfoldings at every moment!)

 

What roles in your life had to transform in order for you to live authentically?

We spend so much time growing up having beliefs placed UPON us. We are told what we should do, could do but mostly what we should not do and are not capable of doing. Told by our families, our communities, the media. For me, I had to leave behind the ‘white picket fence’ syndrome that I had adopted. That I would go to college, work a few years, get married, have a few children and live happily ever after.  I learned that this ‘movie’ would not hand me the happily ever after, but rather, I had to become responsible for my OWN JOY.  And in stepping into this role, living becomes a gift to embrace in each and every moment.

 

What have been some of the greatest inner gifts you’ve experienced since stepping into your feminine power?

The biggest inner gift that I have received is knowing that I don’t have to be perfect. When I released the attachment that that held for me, I was able to begin to embrace living in-joy.  Life became so much easier. I now embrace mis-takes as learning opportunities. By living from this place, I am able to stop being someone who I clearly am not and it allows me to shine light on all the pieces of me that are brilliant.

By living in this space of brilliance and joy another gift I fully embrace is that of allowing others to do so too. Women who share their unique brilliance with the world give rise to everyone else sharing their own brilliance and love and joy are spread exponentially this way.

Can you share some of your favorite sacred feminine rituals?

I have so many sacred rituals.  I have two favorite one’s that I am embracing right now.

The first is in the morning asking unapologetically for wealth to come into my life so I can continue to spread my message of living in-joy. I do this by turning on the back left hand burner of my stove. This burner represents the wealth area of your life. By bringing the heat from the stove into my hands and embracing the spirit of wealth with an affirmation, the universe is rearranging itself for this to be so right now.

The second is just before I go to bed. I have a blessing bowl on my nightstand and, on slips of paper, I write everything that I received as blessings in my day (even my mis-takes!) Feeling blessed has a vibration that is even higher than gratitude. So, yes, counting my blessings at night is a must to keep my vibration elevated during my slumber.

 

Is there a particular Goddess that you are intimately drawn to and why?

I have a particular fondness for Hecate~ she serves such a variety of roles such as the goddess of crossroads and entrance-ways. Our souls are our compass and help navigate our actions and steps. Calling upon Hecate allows me to make choices wisely when at crossroads.  Too, She is associated with the moon and I relate to the water element which so closely correlates to this.

And, of course, one cannot forget her close association in art and literature with dogs. Life is so much better with wags and slobbers of my own four footers!

Is there a personal message that you would like to share with women?  

Your soul knows the truth. When you take the time to access act upon its inner wisdom, you can live a life that leads to joy at all times.

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Everyday GODDESS: Janet Nestor

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Janet NestorJanet Nestor is expert in the development of inner peacefulness and personal empowerment, a natural intuitive, presenter, and workshop leader. Also a licensed professional counselor, Diplomate in Comprehensive Energy Psychology and a Certified Soul Detective specializing in soul level healing she published Pathways to Wholeness, an inspirational mindfulness guidebook in 2010. Her second book Nurturing Wellness through Radical Self-Care: A Living in Balance Guide and Workbook was published November 2012.

What does being an Everyday Goddess mean to you?

My ideal woman, and the woman I strive to be, is one who is both compassionate and emotionally free to be her authentic self, and doesn't allow others to distract her from her journey.

 

At what age did you awaken to the presence of the Divine Feminine and would you describe it as a sudden awakening or a gentle unfolding?

I had my first spiritual experience before I could walk, but I have not always embraced my spirituality. The birth of my daughters, both now adults, sent me head first into my spiritual journey. When I looked into their eyes and saw their souls, I knew my life could never be the same.  I knew I wanted to grow into the woman I was intended to be and become my authentic self. My search continues to lead me into daily spiritual awakening experiences.

 

What roles in your life had to transform in order for you to live authentically?

I had to let many deeply embedded and incorrect perceptions go!  Over responsibility used to be a real problem for me, and I am happy to report that I've met the challenge and let that habit go. My first career was that of a diagnostic prescriptive educator working with educationally and emotionally challenged adolescents and young adults. I loved doing my work, but I also wanted to go emotionally deeper with my students. I went back to school to become a mental health therapist and licensed professional counselor.

 

What have been some of the greatest inner gifts you’ve experienced since stepping into your feminine power?

 I've found my inner silence!  My spiritual guidance team helped me discover my innate value and lifted me up to become an empowered woman. Meditation helped me understand the limitlessness nature I share with all other human beings. I know it is necessary for me to recognize my gifts and claim them.

Can you share some of your favorite sacred feminine rituals?

I love waking up in the morning, walking down to the dock to watch the birth of a new day.  Doing breath work or a standing chi gong barefoot in the grass with the trees, the water, and my little dog Cozmo as my companions connects me with nature and the Creator. Candles create a cozy feeling, so I usually light one in the morning and keep it glowing all day long.

Is there a particular Goddess that you are intimately drawn to and why?

My grandmother was a goddess. She graduated from high school at age 14, married at 14, had 3 children before she was 20. Somehow she managed to graduate from business college, survive an alcoholic father who died of his disease and an alcoholic husband who found recovery. While she never worked outside the home, she had amazing strength and courage.  Currently, I love the humor of Pema Chodron and her work in the field of Mindfulness. She has certainly earned her Goddess crown!

Is there a personal message that you would like to share with women?  

Love yourself. Do what makes you happy in life. Associate with people who encourage you and lift you up.  And most of all, no matter what is challenging you at the moment … never give up!

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The Year of Me

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year of meMy friend and mentor Linda Joy told me a cute story last week about how her sister had declared 2014 “The Year of Me.” While Linda's family was having a hard time accepting this – they thought it was selfish to dedicate an entire year to yourself – Linda applauded her and suggested I do the same.

 “With everything you went through last year, you need to make 2014 about you. I want you to make a sign that says “The Year of Mary” and post it where you'll see it often. Instead of making a sign, I just wrote the words on my bedroom mirror. I see it every time I pass by the mirror and it's a potent reminder to continually check in with and ask myself throughout the day, “What do you need to do for you right now?”

 It's so easy to get caught up in our endless to-do lists that we forget to put ourselves on that list! Or if we do, it's so far down that list that we never actually make time to do something nice for ourselves.

Hence the Year of Me.

Most women I know have said that 2013 was awful. I've said before that it was the best worst year of my life. But we made it through. And that is something to be celebrated, don't you think? After making it through a year of catastrophe, isn't it time to take a year to Nourish your Soul?

I'll tell you what happens when you don't. You get sick. My friend Linda Joy's theme for the year is Nourish. To make sure she took that seriously, Universe delivered her a big reminder in the form of a head cold that had her out for a week. My theme is Love, as in Self-Love. When I promptly fell back into the chaos of university life, Universe gifted me with the flu. As I sit here and type this, it is Monday. I cancelled all of my meetings today because I knew if I didn't stay home and take care of myself today, Universe would ensure I didn't heal until I took time to Love me enough to allow myself some well-deserved rest and relaxation.

 So I urge you to ask yourself:

What would my year look like if I were to focus on taking care of me?

If it helps, integrate your theme for the year into your question. So for Linda it might be:

What can I do today to Nourish myself?

My question is:

If I acted from a place of Love, what would that look like?

Another one is:

What can I do for myself today that will show me how much I Love Me?

If an entire year seems too scary, just try it for the next 6 weeks. According to Punxsutawney Phil, we have 6 weeks left in Winter. As a testament to that, I woke up to snow this morning. It appears that Mother Nature isn't quite ready bloom yet. She needs more time to Nourish herself before the Spring. And since She's been around a lot longer than I have, I figure She knows what She’s doing.

We've got 6 weeks until Spring, ladies. What's one thing you can focus on to best Love and Nourish yourself in the next 6 weeks?

This is the Year of You. Let's get off to a great start by taking some time for ourselves in the next 6 weeks to Nourish and Love ourselves as we prepare for Spring.