Monthly Archives: January 2015

Figuring Out Who You Are

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pensive womanIn Fall of 2013, I got divorced and then (not because of the divorce) spent the next 4 months on crutches nursing a broken heel. And I found myself at a loss. I couldn’t ‘do’ many of the things that made me me. Newly divorced, I was no longer a wife. I was on sabbatical, so I wasn’t technically a college professor either. I couldn’t run, so I wasn’t a runner.

I was single, had just turned 40 and had no idea what I wanted to be when I grew up because all of my dreams had been shattered in the previous 6 months.

So I had to start over.

The first step was finding me again because I no longer knew who I was.

So how do you start? Watch the video below to find out!

 

How to Improve Your Relationship with the Woman in the Mirror

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About a year ago I was giving a talk to a group of local business women. It was right before International Self-Love Day (Feb 13th) and I was explaining the difference between self-esteem and self-love. One woman in the audience raised her hand.

“You mean the nasty things I say about myself in the morning when I get dressed isn't self-love?”

Bingo.

She was genuinely shocked. She truly believed that if she had high self-esteem, which she thought she did, that meant she loved herself. That couldn't be further from the truth.

So how do you learn to love the woman in the mirror? This week's video gives you a simple step you can take starting today.

 

Inner Goddess Wisdom Tip:

Draw a heart on your hand everyday to remind yourself to take exquisite care of yourself. Bonus for saying, “I love you,” while looking deep into your own eyes in the mirror and meaning it!

Healing with the Goddess: Gaia – Mother Earth

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World EyeIn the circle of life, Winter is a time when the Great Mother Goddess, Gaia, goes within to give herself time to heal. And if you know her story, she really needed some down time. According to Greek myth and legend, Gaia’s story goes something like this:

In the beginning were the four Elements: Earth (Gaia), Water (Pontus), Air (Chaos), and Sky (Ouranos) (some say Gaia emerged from Chaos and then gave birth to Ouranos and Pontus). As Gaia was the only female, she had the pick of the litter, so to speak. Ouranos caught her eye and they wed (Note: incest was not a problem for the Ancient Greeks). Soon after, Gaia gave birth to the Titans. But Ouranos became jealous of his children as they were taking up so much of his precious wife’s time. So he got her pregnant again and this time she gave birth to the Cylops (one-eyed giants), and the Hecatonchires (giants with 50 hands and 50 heads – Yikes!). Ouranos hid these giants from his wife, hoping he could train them to kill his first offspring, the Titans. Gaia found out and tricked hubby into coming to her bed for a wild night of passion. One of the Titans, Cronus, waited and killed good old Dad. From Ouranus' spilled blood, Gaia birthed the Erinyes (also known as the Furies, Goddesses of vengeance), the Giants (I guess the Cylops and Hecatonchires weren’t enough) and the Meliae (ash-tree nymphs). From the testicles of Ouranus came forth Aphrodite (I should have warned you this tale was rather gruesome). All told, Gaia had somewhere between 30 and 50 children, depending on the tale. No wonder she was so tired!

The interesting thing about Gaia is that she was complete in herself. Having the ability to birth children without becoming pregnant in the traditional way, she is truly the Mother of all. She is known for her mothering, nurturing, creativity, and balance (after all, she did give birth to all of the Elements, Heaven, and Hell). So she is a perfect Goddess to call upon when you feel you need some nurturing or you seek balance in your life.

Inner Goddess Wisdom Tip:

Write down 5 things you love to do to take care of yourself. Now go do one of them and schedule the others on your calendar for some time within the next month.

Featured GODDESS: Gaia

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gaiaGaia

Mother of All

“Hold yourself high and take good care of yourself, for you are a child of my womb. By honoring yourself, you honor me.”

 

 

 

 

Traits Gaia Embodies:

 

  • Mothering
  • Nurturing
  • Creativity/creation
  • Balance
  • Self-care

 

How to call on Gaia:

 

In the beginning were the four Elements: Earth (Gaia), Water (Pontus), Air (Chaos), and Sky (Ouranos) (some say Gaia emerged from Chaos and then gave birth to Ouranos and Pontus). As Gaia was the only female, she had the pick of the litter, so to speak. Ouranos caught her eye and they wed (Note: incest was not a problem for the Ancient Greeks). They were a busy pair! Gaia had somewhere between 30 and 50 children, depending on the tale. I bet she was tired! Call on Gaia when you need help nurturing yourself or with any projects you are creating or birthing.

 

Prayer to Gaia:

 

Gaia, Mother of Us All,

Hear my Prayers

In this gentle time,

The time to go within,

I call upon you.

I ask for your help with ______ [insert your issue]

May I create/birth what is for the highest good of all

And my I take exquisite care of myself while doing so

Thank you Gaia!

 

Tribute to Gaia:

 

The best way to honor Gaia is to take care of yourself! What can you do to take care of you today?

Facing the Woman in the Mirror: Getting Honest About Your Life

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Beautiful young woman looking in the mirrorIt’s the second week of January and you know what that means: the pressure is on to keep those New Year’s Resolutions you made last week. The problem is that most people fall off the wagon on their New Year’s Resolutions by the second week in January. That would be now. Gulp!

Rather than making New Year’s Resolutions, I do two things: 1) pick a theme for the year – mine is receptivity – and 2) get brutally honest about what’s working well and what’s not working so well in my life. Once you figure that out, you can make goals – not resolutions – for the areas of your life that aren’t going so well.

To make this easy-breezy for you, I made a video for you that has all the areas I want you to assess and tells you what to do with this information.

There are a few ways to handle this information. I prefer one of these two approaches:

  • Pick one of those areas and really focus on it for a month – think: deep dive. This might involve setting goals for that area and checking back on your progress each week to see how things are going. I find weekly goals work even better for me – that way I don’t procrastinate.
  • Pick three of those areas and set one goal for e ach to accomplish over the next month – these will be smaller end goals than in the first scenario because you won’t be diving as deeply, but that might be perfectly appropriate for areas that are already at a 5 or 6 – areas that need a polish and shine rather than a total redo.

At the end of the month, re-evaluate. See if your scores have changed. Or start with a new area (or three). That’s how you make effective New Year’s “Resolutions”! It’s a process, not a one-time deal.

Inner Goddess Wisdom Action Plan:

Watch the video and come up with a plan to address one (or three) areas this month.

 

Do You Love Your Body?

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Woman Standing on ScaleIn past 24 hours, two women have approached me with body image questions: one wanted the link to Falling in Love With Your Body on the website and the other wanted me to write about that very topic as a featured columnist in a new magazine that hits the stands later this year. When that happens, I figure the Universe is trying to tell me something.

Lucky for you, that also means the Universe thinks I need to share something with you. With more and more women approaching me with body image concerns, I’ve decided to start doing something about it.

The Body Love section of the blog is your place to go for all things related to taking care of your sacred body temple – from improving body image to improving your relationship with food to the occasional healthy recipe, this is your one-stop-shop.

Goddesses, we’ve been ignoring, abusing, punishing our sacred body vessels for too long. It has to stop. If you won’t do it for you, do it for your daughters and granddaughters, your nieces, your neighbor kids – do it for the young girl in your life who looks up to you as a role model. Why? Because it matters – you matter.

Several years ago a friend of mine and I were talking about her daughter’s unhealthy body image. My friend was concerned that her high-school-aged daughter was bordering on anorexia because she rarely saw her eat. As we talked, she suddenly stopped and looked at me. “The fact that I tell her she’s beautiful as she is while at the same time she sees me cussing out the scale every morning probably isn’t helping, is it?”

Bingo. Actions speak louder than words – especially when you have teenagers in the house.

So let’s get honest, Goddess. Do you love your body – all of it? I’m guessing the answer is no. Are you ready to change that? I know I am.

Inner Goddess Wisdom Tip:

Take the Body Satisfaction Questionnaire and then read the articles here for tips on how to improve your body image.

The Earth Will Heal All Wounds

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Snow Blanketing a TreeAs I sit and write this, it is snowing outside. And, like the past two years, my health has been a struggle for the past two months. No broken bones this time, thankfully, but four head colds, walking pneumonia, and a chest infection have kept me down for most of the past two months.

I’ve tried not to let it get to me, though. You see, I’ve learned much in the last year as I have walked with the Goddess. And one thing is clear: everything happens for a reason. My various illnesses are but another of life’s lessons. Maybe you too have been dealing with health issues, or maybe it’s a childhood trauma you never really dealt with, a job loss, a move, or a divorce. Just know that there is a reason behind everything we call to us in life, even if it doesn’t make sense at the time it happens.

Fortunately for us, Winter is the perfect time to go within and heal. For the next three months, we will do just that: explore past wounds and give ourselves time to really and truly heal.

To begin our journey of healing, I’d like to explore the element of Earth. It may seem like a funny time to work with an Element that is all but dormant, but just because you can’t see flowers blooming and grass growing, doesn’t mean nothing is occurring. The Earth cycles, just as we do throughout our lives. The difference between us and Earth is that She regularly takes time out of her busy schedule to focus on healing. A lesson we could all learn from!

The North

Each Element has a direction and Earth’s direction is North. North is associated with the qualities of wisdom, adulthood, will, manifestation, responsibility, giving, and nurturing. It is grounded and solid – think frozen tundra. Yet, underneath the ice, Earth is manifesting healing at a profound level. In Native American circles, the North is associated with vision questing, a time for examining (or undertaking) life’s challenges so that you can learn from them and emerge a better person on the other side.

Winter

As each Element has a directional association, it is also associated with a time of year. Earth and North are associated with Winter, a time of death, hibernation, and regeneration. We must let go of what no longer serves us, sit with it in quiet contemplation, decide how we would like our lives to be from now on and allow ourselves to be reborn.

 

Inner Goddess Wisdom Tip:

Write down everything you feel has been holding you back on a piece of paper. Burn it. This powerful act of letting go can help jump start your healing process.