Monthly Archives: December 2015

The Power of Intention

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As we close one year and move into the next, it’s important to set intentions for the year ahead. Not resolutions, per se, but goals for how you want to be this year. Along with that, I think it’s important to set a theme for the year: something to remind you of your intentions for the year ahead. My intention for 2016? To be discerning in how I spend my time, energy, and money.

What does that mean? No more giving from my cup. No more spending money on things I want but don’t need until my debt is paid off. No more going along with what others want to please them. No more wasting my time and energy on people who drain me.

2016 will be the year I check in with me on a regular basis. The year I prioritize my self-care. The year I become financially savvy.

My Intentions for 2016

  • Give from my overflow
  • Act from a place of love in all things, beginning with love for myself
  • Learn to receive
  • Make financially savvy decisions
  • Give myself permission to be me and know that, in every moment, I am enough
  • Take evenings and weekends off
  • Have more fun
  • Go on an actual vacation, or two or three…
  • Listen to my intuition
  • Check in with myself regularly (at least once a day) to see how I am feeling and what I need
  • Be honest with myself
  • Let down my heart wall and let more love in
  • Be the best version of me I can be
  • Check in with my angels and guides on a daily basis to make sure I am living to my fullest potential
  • Prioritize the things that are important to me rather than allowing others to set my priorities
  • Set boundaries to keep myself healthy and sane
  • Spend more time in nature
  • Learn a new skill
  • Challenge myself a little bit every day – comfort zones are highly overrated
  • Be true to myself in thought, word, and deed – time to speak my truth and walk in my power
  • Love my body and myself
  • Trust my intuition
  • Take my company to new heights
  • Allow financial abundance to flow in like water, easily and effortlessly
  • Do daily, weekly, monthly and quarterly check ins with my Leonie Dawson Life and Business Planner workbooks
  • Allow myself to fall in love – with myself, my life, my man
  • Give full measure – time to get out or go all in for the things that really matter to me
  • Go back to daily meditation, morning and night
  • Move my body in ways that I love every day – whether that be running, yoga, lifting weights, belly dance, hiking in the foothills with my dogs, or a new way of movement that I have yet to find
  • Explore life and my sexuality
  • Heal, process, and grow – life is nothing but a lesson, an evolution to becoming a better version of me
  • Laugh more and enjoy life
  • Be more grateful for all that I have, all that I am, and all that I am becoming

(Be sure to phrase these positively and read them often.)



Manifesting Your Heart’s Desires

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Last time we talked about the importance of getting out of your own way to truly manifest your heart's desire. But there is more to it than that. I have found that these 7 steps are crucial to getting what you really want in life.

Dr. Mary’s 7 Steps to Manifest What You Desire

  • Figure out what it is that you actually want – when I decided to start dating after my divorce, I made a list (phrased positively) of what I wanted in a partner. While that may sound simple, it actually took me months to really and truly finalize that list. I would go out on a date and then add something. I would go out with another man and cross something off or rephrase it because it wasn’t presenting itself the way I wanted it to. Three pages and about a full year later, I had my “final” list.
  • Figure out why you want it – this is as important as step 1. What will you do with X [insert what you want]. How would it make your life better? “Because” is not a reason. It also needs to be fairly specific. “To be happy” doesn’t cut it either. If you are trying to manifest your Soul Mate, think long and hard about why. Are you trying to fend off loneliness? Looking for a man to take care of you? Want a partner you can share your life with? For the Universe to deliver, your motivations need to be clear and they need to be of good intention. Wanting to “out do” someone or use them to feel better about yourself won’t work.
  • Believe you’re worth having it – This is the biggest stumbling block I see. You can get specific about what you want and why you want it, but until you believe you are worth it, you will not manifest it. A few years back, I had a friend who wanted to manifest a white Jaguar convertible. I asked her why and she shrugged. She just decided one day that it was something she wanted. That’s all fine and good, but it doesn’t cut it. As I started probing, we got to the bottom of it. To her, having that car would mean that she had “arrived,” that she was a person of worth. Now there may be better ways to prove your worth and I wasn’t sold on a car being that proof, but that’s a conversation for another day. The moral of the story is this: you have to believe you’re worth it. Until she fully believed this, she didn’t manifest her car. Once she convinced herself she was worth it, she got her car in less than one week.
  • Ask for what you want – Yes, you actually have to ask. Do not skip this step. Don’t assume God/Goddess/Universe knows what you want, especially when you keep changing your mind. And if you are asking for something and not getting it, go back to steps 1-3 and make sure you are crystal clear about what you want, why you want it, and believe that you deserve it. For more on asking for what you want, see today’s video. If that doesn’t work, go to step 5.
  • Take action, but not in a forceful way – after you ask, you have to show Universe you are serious. For example, if you want to manifest a trip to Costa Rica, start looking at how much you’d have to save up to go where you want to go. Check out a book about traveling to Costa Rica from the library. Make sure your passport is valid. Or, let’s say you want to manifest your Soul Mate. You need to get out of the house – go to places where you can meet new people, join a meet up group, get on a dating site, etc. You get the idea. You don’t want to control everything, but you do need to take a few steps in the right direction.
  • Get out of your own way – This means two things to me: 1) ask for what you want and then let it go. You have to stop trying to control the who/what/when/how/why of whatever it is that you are asking for. 2) be prepared for it to show up a little bit differently than you thought you wanted. My friend who wanted a Jaguar wanted a brand new one, but she couldn’t afford one. Instead, she manifested a used, but in very good condition, white Jaguar convertible that was within her budget.
  • Wait for it – Universe doesn’t do well with deadlines. Occasionally I have been able to manifest a certain thing in a certain time frame – the more emotion I put behind my request, the faster I tend to get it – but typically Universe is on its own time schedule. For example, when I decided I wanted to start dating again, I was told “You’re not ready.” I probed further and asked when I might expect to meet the man who met my 3-page list of requirements and was told, “December.” I promptly forgot that I had this conversation with the Universe. I took Summer off of the dating scene, but when Fall came around, I decided to try again. I dated off and on. October was disastrous, as was November. But low and behold, December 5, I met him. Two weeks later, I remembered my conversation with the Universe. Ahh… yes. Universe most certainly operates on its own time.

Happy Manifesting!


The Art of Manifestation

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I used think that if you worked hard enough in life, you could “force” your will upon the Universe, and thus, get whatever you wanted. A few years ago I realized the error of my ways.

Having broken my heel for the second time in a year, I was desperate to heal as quickly as possible. I kept praying to be healed, all the while trying whatever magic oil/ pill/ exercise/ healing ritual anyone recommended to me in an effort to heal faster. None of it worked.

Then one day I had a conversation with my friend Paulette. “Do you want to heal?” she asked me.

“Of course,” I said, and proceeded to list everything I was do-ing in my effort to heal.

She shook her head. “That’s your problem.”

“What?” I stared at her dumbfounded.

“You’re do-ing. You need to allow your body time to heal, to recover, to grieve [I had just gotten a divorce the week I re-broke my heel].” Her point? I was praying for healing and then self-sabotaging by over-doing so no healing was actually occurring.

Our conversation was a huge ‘aha’ moment for me. Yes, you have to ask for what you want, and yes, you have to let Universe know you’re serious about it. But then, you have to get out of your own way…

That day, I stopped fighting against the Universe. I prayed, I journaled, I rested, and I let go.

Likely this would have all happened much faster had I done this from the beginning, but life is nothing but a lesson…

I get questions every day from women who want to manifest their heart’s desire: a new job, a child, a Soul Mate, a friend… Heart felt stories of loss, grief, and heartache. I listen; I ask questions, I suggest different ways of thinking of be-ing. But it boils down to this: if you want to manifest something, you have to ask for what you want and then get out of your own way.

To get my 7 steps to manifest what you heart desires, go here.

Finding Mr. Right: It’s About Forgiveness and Letting Go

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Having just taken part in Jaki Sabourin’s Engaged at Any Age telesummit for the third time (love that woman!), I’ve been getting a lot of questions from readers about finding Mr. Right.

Here’s the deal: you can’t move on to a new relationship or find Mr. Right if you: 1) are still holding onto an old relationship, and 2) haven’t done the inner work to heal whatever issues got triggered in your previous relationship(s). Blaming your ex or yourself for ‘failing’ in your relationship actually prevents you from moving on. Believe me – I learned this the hard way after my divorce in 2013.

Here’s what I want you to do:

  1. Write a letter of forgiveness to every single person in your life who has hurt you – just get it all out. [Note: to me, forgiveness is not atonement; forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past could have been any different than it was. And since you can’t change the past, by not allowing yourself to for-give, you are forcing yourself to stay stuck there and who wants to do that?!] Once you have written all you can write, get rid of that letter in some sort of symbolic act (burn it, rip it into shreds, flush it down the commode) saying, “I forgive you and release you.”
  2. Write a letter of forgiveness to yourself – because let’s face it: 1) it takes two to tango; so while your partner likely made a few mistakes in your relationship, so did you…, and 2) we are usually our own worst enemy instead of our own best friend. Time to change that. Once you’ve written down every perceived mistake you made in said relationship(s), you’re going to do the same type of symbolic release ceremony.

Now onto the fun part: Finding Mr. Right!

  1. If you haven’t already, download my free gift and listen to the How to Be Your Own Prince Charming audio class and do the worksheets I provided (sign up here:
  2. Make a list of everything you want to attract in a partner – I’m not talking about hair color and eye color here; I’m talking about the core values that are deal breakers for you if they are not met.
  3. Take a look in the mirror – do you reflect what’s on your list? If not, how can you expect to attract Mr. Right? You can’t. You get what you put out there. So it’s time to do some inner work.
  4. Look at your heart wall and evaluate whether it’s time to begin dismantling it. See today’s video for more on that.
  5. Ask the Universe for what you want – refer to your list
  6. Sit back and wait – I know, I know, this part sucks, but Universe will not deliver Mr. Right until you have let go of Mr. Wrong and done the work you need to do to attract the right man for you.

Have fun! 😉

Who Is The Goddess Within?

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the goddess within

“The Goddess doesn’t enter us from outside; she emerges from deep within. She is not held back by what happened in the past. She is conceived in consciousness, born in love, and nurtured by higher thinking. She is integrity and value, created and sustained by the hard work of personal growth and the discipline of a life lived actively in hope.” — Marianne Williamson

In April of 2013, during a guided meditation, I experienced something that would change the course of my life. You see, I had been working for 9 months on a book about the Psychology of Eating, my research specialty. Yet, I had hit writer’s block. Big time. I hadn’t made any progress on my book in 3 months.

At the advice of my friend and mentor, Linda Joy, I contacted her book coach – Lisa Tener. Lisa offered to lead me through a guided meditation to meet my writing muse so I could ask her why I had writer’s block. Desperate, I jumped at the chance.

The problem came when I actually met my writing muse, what I now refer to as my inner goddess. She told me that I had writer’s block because I was writing the wrong book for the wrong people. That I was supposed to be writing a book about awakening your inner goddess that, as I wrote, would heal me, and as other women read the book, would help them heal.

I panicked. I fought her. I tried to ignore her. Who did she think she was telling me I was writing the wrong book? It was based on my life’s work, which at that point was over 15 years of research. How could it be the wrong book? And I knew nothing about the Goddess. Sure, I loved learning about the Greek and Roman myths during my five years of taking Latin, but other than that, I didn’t even know what an Inner Goddess was, let alone that I had one.

But after another week of getting nowhere on my book on the Psychology of Eating, I sat down and did the meditation again, then went to my computer and starting writing. The words flowed out of me like water. All I had to do was: 1) get out of my own way, and 2) be open to receiving the lessons I needed to learn.

Fast forward two and a half years…

In some ways, on the surface, my life doesn’t look all that different than it did when I first met my Inner Goddess in April of 2103. I still am a Professor, I still research body image and eating disorders, I still teach classes on the Psychology of Eating and blog about the topic for Psychology Today. Yet, I am a different woman. I am stronger, more confident, more sure of myself, more courageous than I ever thought possible. I am authentically me. I no longer hide in shadows for fear of what others might think. I wear my purple streaked flowing mermaid hair with pride. I speak my truth and walk in my power. I belly dance half naked in public because I love it and it allows me to express my creativity and my connection to the Divine Feminine. I am no longer afraid.

You see, that day in April of 2013 I made a decision, a decision to stop living a lie, to stop hiding my truth – the truth of who I was.

Who is this Inner Goddess?

She is you, but she is you at the core of who you are. She is all of your potential. She is the woman you were meant to be. She cares little for what other people think. She listens to the music of her soul and she dances to it. She has walked through fire and emerged, if not unscathed, truly victorious. She has cried, had her heart broken, and known the depths of loss and pain. But instead of allowing herself to be overcome by them, she has used these challenges to grow, to strengthen her resolve, her belief in herself.

She is your intuition, your inner knowing, your connection to and embodiment of the Divine Feminine. She is the woman you were before society got ahold of you and turned you into who you are now.

She is your beauty. She is your light. She is your truth.

“Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's unbecoming everything that isn't you so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.” – Unknown

Are you ready to unbecome who you are not so you can be who you were meant to be?

Want to learn more? I invite you to join me for this month’s complimentary call and powerful ceremony: Awaken the Goddess Within.