Monthly Archives: February 2017

Honoring the Rhythms of Your Body and Of Life

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As I write this is it almost March, the herald of Spring in the Northern Hemisphere. Yet, if the inch of snow we got last night wasn’t enough to let me know that it isn’t quite time to Spring into action just yet, my body is telling me loud and clear: it’s still time to rest and hibernate.

We talked a couple of weeks ago about the Frustration of February and how, after a long, hard Winter, many of us in the Northern Hemisphere are ready for Spring to bloom. Yet, as in Nature and in life, there is a Season – a right time – for everything. If I’ve learned anything over my 43 years on this planet, it’s that you can’t force things to happen. You might think you are in “control” and have it all together, but don’t be surprised if and when Universe knocks you off your high horse!

I used to be a control freak. Truth be told, it’s still something I fight nearly every day (I was born on the cusp of Virgo…). Several years ago I had a pretty bad year. It was one of those years that was jam-packed more “life lessons” than I cared to learn, but learn them I did. Three of the biggest lessons I learned that year were:

  • Life happens for you, not to you – I used to get so mad at the Universe when things went wrong. I would think to myself, “Why me? What did I do to deserve this?” Yet, I learned two important lessons that year: 1) I wasn’t in control of everything; I couldn’t be. 2) Playing the victim and asking, “Why me?” was getting me nowhere. Here’s the thing: you can’t control everything, but you can control how you respond and what lessons you learn from everything that happens for you. Life is nothing but a journey of opportunities for growth, after all.
  • Honor the rhythms of your body and of life – I used to try to be the Energizer bunny. I would go and go until I crashed. I would work through pain, sickness, grief. Work became my go to coping mechanism because it’s what I learned growing up. Unfortunately, that viewpoint very nearly killed me (I almost died of pneumonia when I was 25). I’m nothing if not a slow learner, and I am still a work in progress. But here’s what I know about me: my energy levels vary. They are not constant. Also, I am not the Energizer bunny (nor are you, for that matter). We weren’t meant to keep pushing ourselves until we break. It’s not healthy and it likely won’t make you happy either. (See today’s video for more on cycles and rhythms.)
  • You can’t fight the Universe – after my very stressful year of learning these lessons, I started January of the next year with a new motto: instead of fighting the Universe (a battle I never won), what would happen if I tried to go with the flow more, laughed a little more at myself, and tried a little harder to pay attention to the lessons Universe was trying to teach me? This wasn’t easy, mind you, as it was a complete 180 from what I had been doing most of my life. But, I found that if I just stopped resisting for a minute and allowed myself time to breathe, check in with myself, and ask, “What’s the lesson here?,” Life got, if not easier, then at least more enjoyable. Those onions didn’t seem quite so bad and instead of getting hit with Cosmic 2x4s, Universe turned to more gentle nudges and whispers because I was finally listening so it didn’t have to scream so loudly!

In today’s video, I discuss a little bit more about these life lessons and how you can learn to harness the power of the cycles and rhythms of your body and your life.

New Moon in Pisces

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This continues a series of posts on working with Moon energy. Each New Moon and Full Moon, I will post suggestions for working with that archetype and harness the energy of the Moon’s cycle.

New Moon Energy

The new moon is a time of new beginnings, a time when you plant the seeds you wish to harvest over the next month. Yet, do not neglect to let go of what no longer serves before you plant those seeds. It does no good to plant seeds in a barren desert. So the night before each new moon, in the dark of the moon, I like to hold a release ceremony. Some questions to ponder might be:

  • What do you need to release before moving forward with this new moon cycle?
  • What patterns have you been holding on to that no longer serve?

Once you have let go of the old, it’s time to set your intentions for this moon cycle. I do this on the night of the New Moon. Some questions to ponder might be:

  • What do I wish to create over the next month (from New Moon to New Moon)?
  • What do I need to allow my creations to come into light?

New Moon in Pisces

Ahhh… the Dreamer of the zodiac. Pisces is a water sign, and water rules emotions. As such, Pisceans are very emotional and empathetic. They are spiritual and intuitive and have an innate ability to understand what other people are experiencing. This tends to make them more sensitive to their surroundings as well as other people's emotions. Although they are the dreamers, and they do tend to dream big, they are not always the do-ers of the zodiac. Thus, their big dreams don't always come to fruition because they've moved onto another dream before they finished making the first one come true, which can sometimes lead to frustration! 😉

So what does this mean for working with the New Moon energy? You can add the energy of Pisces to your New Moon reflections by asking yourself the following reflective questions:

  • What do I dream of (literally: what are your dreams telling you)? What does this mean to and for me?
  • What is my Big Dream? How am I taking steps to fulfill that dream? What’s holding me back?
  • Do I have any Big Dreams that I've let go by the wayside? Are those dreams still valid? If so, why have I not pursued them? If not, am I ready to close the door on those dreams and move on?
  • How am I getting in my own way?
  • Who or what in my life would benefit from a more empathetic approach? 
  • What is my intuition trying to tell me and why?

Enjoy working with the New Moon energy in Pisces! It should be an intuitive and dreamy time for all of us.

Why is This Happening for Me?

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I had the pleasure of being interviewed for a podcast, Lori's Lemonade Stand, this past week. I'll let you know as soon as the episode goes live. She started the episode by asking me to dish the dirt. She wanted to know where I came from, what my story was, why I say that my mess is my message. And dish I did. And I thought, “What a wonderful idea. What a wonderful way to begin a podcast episode!” 

I talked about this before – on the blog, in my podcast, and on telesummits. Often times people think that because you have a podcast, or YouTube channel, or a blog, that you somehow have it all together, have it all figured out. When faced with a particularly challenging life struggle, clients often ask me, “When is this going to be done? Haven't I learned my lesson yet?” The answer is: it depends. Sometimes we may think that we've learned our lesson, and for a while – maybe even a few years – everything goes smoothly. And then there's that day. That day when you think that whatever lesson you thought you'd resolved comes roaring back into your life once again.

What I've learned in my 43 years on this planet is that life is but a lesson. We all have what I like to call onions – our particular life challenges, struggles, lessons that we were sent here to learn. But onions have many layers. We heal one layer and we think, “I'm done!” Only to find out weeks, months, years later that in fact we weren't done, it's time to dive deep into yet another layer.

As frustrating as these onions may be for us, I encourage you to start to look at them with a slightly different perspective. Instead of getting angry or frustrated, what if you could learn to see the beauty of the lesson that it's trying to teach you? In today's video I talk about how to do just that.

Emergence: Peeking Out from the Cocoon: Exploring the Energies of February

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February 2nd was an important day for many of us in the United States: Groundhog Day. February 2nd is the day that we anxiously await to see if Punxsutawney Phil will see his shadow (forecasting 6 more weeks of Winter). He did; leaving many of us frustrated with what has already been a long and brutal Winter.

This is not a new idea. In ancient times people turned to Brigid to forecast the remaining days of Winter on February 2nd. Instead of the U.S. Punxsutawney Phil, ancient peoples awaited Brigid’s sacred snake to emerge from his cave. The snake’s behavior indicated whether or not Winter was over. Thus, the tradition of February 2nd being an important day is not a new one.

Whether or not you want to rely on a rodent, or a snake, to predict the weather is beside the point. February 2nd marks the halfway point between Winter and Spring in the Northern Hemisphere (Summer and Fall in the Southern Hemisphere). Thus, it is a turning point in the Wheel of the Year; a time when we may feel like we have one foot in Winter and one in Spring. After a particularly long and brutal Winter, many of us are ready for it to be over. Yet, February is saying, “Not quite yet…”

I liken the energy of February to emerging from a cocoon. Many of us hibernate (or are at least less active and more introspective) during the Winter months. After the holiday season, we retreat into the safety, warmth and comfort of our homes and watch the snow fall while sitting by a warm fireplace drinking hot cocoa.

And then comes February. The robins of Spring appear. The crocuses may start to poke through the ground. Other signs of Spring begin to appear. Yet, we’re not done with Winter just yet. There may still be the occasional snow fall and the temperatures aren’t as warm as we’d like. This can lead to a lot of frustration. After a long, hard Winter, we think we’re ready for Spring! But, we’re not. We still have a few more lessons to learn and tasks to prepare.

In today’s video I discuss these key tasks that we should turn our attention to in February:

  1. Self-care – we are not out of the cocoon yet. We still need to take exquisite care of ourselves so that we will well-rested and ready when the season changes.
  2. Planning and preparation – we may have made New Year’s resolutions and goals in January, but usually by January 8th or so, those have already flown out the window. February is the time to get serious about figuring out what we want to create/manifest this year. What is calling to be birthed this year?
  3. Patience and faith – as frustrating as it might be to get glimpses of the changing of seasons without fully being there yet, we need this extra month before the seasons change to prepare for what is to come. So practice self-care, plan and prepare for your year ahead and then sit back and wait, trusting it will unfold for you in due time.

Full Moon in Leo

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This is part of a series of posts on working with Moon energy. Each New Moon and Full Moon, I will post suggestions for working with that archetype and harness the energy of the Moon’s cycle.

Full Moon Energy

The full moon is the time of a birth, a time when the seeds you planted at the New Moon prior (approximately 2 weeks ago) come to fruition. So if you set goals and intentions at the New Moon, now is a great time to bring them out and evaluate your progress.

  • What do you need to do between now and the next New Moon to birth your intentions?
  • What needs to happen in your life for that to occur?
  • What do you need to finish up?
  • What do you need to let go of?

Full Moon in Leo

Leo, the lion. When I think of lions, I think of courage, bravery, and daring. As a fire sign, Leos light up any room they walk into. They also tend to be flamboyant and like to show off and be noticed. Because of this, their motivation is off the charts and they tend to succeed at whatever they put their minds to. The downside is that Leos are sometimes seen as prideful or egotistic, or even drama Kings and Queens. Fortunately, Leos are also known for their generous and expressive nature. The best of both worlds with Leo energy? Shine that light of yours on those around you so that all can benefit.

So what does this mean for working with the Full Moon energy? You can add the energy of Leo to your Full Moon reflections by asking yourself the following questions:

  • What is my relationship to my fiery side? Have I been reining in my passions? If so, why?
  • What do I think about people who live in the “limelight?” How might my response be my shadow-self talking or my ego?
  • Where have I been hiding my light? Not shining? Not allowing myself to find and express my true potential?
  • Where has pride or ego gotten in my way and prevented me from living my Soul’s Purpose?
  • What is my Soul calling for me to do? What wants to be birthed through me right now?

Enjoy working with the Full Moon energy in Leo! It should be a fiery time for all of us.

How to Handle Your Inner Mean Girl

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Several years ago a good friend confronted me about my dirty little secret: I had an eating disorder, one I had been in denial about for over 2 decades. After a week of arguing with him, I finally admitted that I had a problem. It was time to face the facts: not only did I not love the woman in the mirror, I flat out loathed her. I felt betrayed by my body after decades of battling endometriosis and osteopenia (a side effect of one of the treatments for the endometriosis), and four failed rounds of fertility treatments. I had desperately wanted the “American dream” – 2 kids, a dog, a beautiful home with a white picket fence – but my infertility had put a severe damper on my plans. So I had been subconsciously punishing my body for her perceived betrayal by exercising too much and eating too little.

After finally admitting I had an eating disorder, I threw myself into healing with a fervent passion. I was determined to “beat” my eating disorder. And I did. But it wasn't easy and it didn't happen overnight. Why? I kept self-sabotaging. At some level, my inner mean girl (aka inner critic) didn't want me to get better. It served her to believe that I would never be good enough. After all, if you set your expectations really low, and you fail, you haven't lost much…

Yet, I was torn because I wanted to heal so I could help other women heal their relationships with food, their bodies, and themselves. I wanted to be a beacon of hope, not a beacon of failure. That meant I had to confront my inner mean girl and get to the bottom of why she: 1) didn't want to heal, and 2) believed I wasn't good enough to be worthy of my dreams. But I had no idea where to start.

One day as I was journaling, I had an epiphany: what if, instead of buying into her nonsense, I confronted her? What if I actually dialogued with her and tried to get to the bottom of her meanness? So I did. What I found surprised me:

In fact, the exact opposite was true: she wanted me to succeed. But she was so afraid of failure, she built walls “of protection” around herself – so many walls that success was highly unlikely. Furthermore, she didn't mean to self-sabotage; she just didn't want to get hurt … again. As the layers of memories and pain were revealed, she began to soften, to hope, to let go. I had to go through this process several times to really get it to stick, but the good news is that I rarely am confronted by my inner mean girl these days. Yes, I still get scared, but I allow myself to ask for help when I need it and have opened myself up enough to receive it that I rarely let fear of failure (or success or having what I want) stop me these days. 

In today's podcast, I walk you through this process. I hope it serves you:

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And if you are ready to dive a little deeper with your inner mean girl and would like some support, I just re-opened enrollment for my 7-week group coaching program, The Nourished Temple. You can learn more about it here.