One of my earliest memories of the Goddess Aphrodite was the 1986 hit song “Venus” by Bananarama. I never liked the name Venus though – I much preferred Her Greek name, Aphrodite. As a child I wanted to be Aphrodite. As a gawky, gangly pre-teen, I would have given almost anything to have Her beauty and grace.
As I grew up, I learned that Aphrodite was not just the Goddess of romantic love, but rather, she was the embodiment of self-love, something we can all use a heavy dose of these days. Ask any woman whether she’s happy with what she looks like or if she’s completely happy with her life and you’ll likely get a resounding “no.” Ask that same woman, “When was the last time you did something really nice for yourself?” and you’ll likely get silence. After a few moments, she might come back with, “Well there was that day a few months ago when I had the flu and I slept in until 6:00 am.”
Sound familiar? It’s sad, really. Why can’t we as women take a day off or do something nice for ourselves? And lest you think I’m a hypocrite, I’m asking that same question of myself right now – on a Sunday morning when I’ve been working all weekend and haven’t had a real vacation in a couple of years.
But I do manage to make time for a few little things for myself. I try to get a massage at least twice a month, turn off the laptop by 6:00 or 7:00pm every night, and have lunch with my girlfriends once a month or so.
Would I like to do more for myself? Of course. But that little voice inside is like a gerbil on a wheel, “You know what you could be doing with your time right now, right? Writing another blog? Working on your product line? Doing some marketing? Going to a networking event?” Ahh… the infamous little voice inside. Sometimes I just want to yell, “Shut up, already!” But then I’d be yelling at myself, which I’m pretty sure is not a way to show yourself love.
So when that little voice crops up inside my head, I try to respond with, “Yes, I could be doing _____ [fill in the blank], but right now, this is the best way to Honor me. If I don’t make time for myself, then I won’t be able to give my best to _____. “ Most of the time that works to quiet the little voice down from a scream to a whisper. And if it doesn’t, I turn to Aphrodite, Goddess of Self-Love, for a little help.
Take care of you!