New Moon in Pisces

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This continues a series of posts on working with Moon energy. Each New Moon and Full Moon, I will post suggestions for working with that archetype and harness the energy of the Moon’s cycle.

New Moon Energy

The new moon is a time of new beginnings, a time when you plant the seeds you wish to harvest over the next month. Yet, do not neglect to let go of what no longer serves before you plant those seeds. It does no good to plant seeds in a barren desert. So the night before each new moon, in the dark of the moon, I like to hold a release ceremony. Some questions to ponder might be:

  • What do you need to release before moving forward with this new moon cycle?
  • What patterns have you been holding on to that no longer serve?

Once you have let go of the old, it’s time to set your intentions for this moon cycle. I do this on the night of the New Moon. Some questions to ponder might be:

  • What do I wish to create over the next month (from New Moon to New Moon)?
  • What do I need to allow my creations to come into light?

New Moon in Pisces

Ahhh… the Dreamer of the zodiac. Pisces is a water sign, and water rules emotions. As such, Pisceans are very emotional and empathetic. They are spiritual and intuitive and have an innate ability to understand what other people are experiencing. This tends to make them more sensitive to their surroundings as well as other people's emotions. Although they are the dreamers, and they do tend to dream big, they are not always the do-ers of the zodiac. Thus, their big dreams don't always come to fruition because they've moved onto another dream before they finished making the first one come true, which can sometimes lead to frustration! 😉

So what does this mean for working with the New Moon energy? You can add the energy of Pisces to your New Moon reflections by asking yourself the following reflective questions:

  • What do I dream of (literally: what are your dreams telling you)? What does this mean to and for me?
  • What is my Big Dream? How am I taking steps to fulfill that dream? What’s holding me back?
  • Do I have any Big Dreams that I've let go by the wayside? Are those dreams still valid? If so, why have I not pursued them? If not, am I ready to close the door on those dreams and move on?
  • How am I getting in my own way?
  • Who or what in my life would benefit from a more empathetic approach? 
  • What is my intuition trying to tell me and why?

Enjoy working with the New Moon energy in Pisces! It should be an intuitive and dreamy time for all of us.

Why is This Happening for Me?

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I had the pleasure of being interviewed for a podcast, Lori's Lemonade Stand, this past week. I'll let you know as soon as the episode goes live. She started the episode by asking me to dish the dirt. She wanted to know where I came from, what my story was, why I say that my mess is my message. And dish I did. And I thought, “What a wonderful idea. What a wonderful way to begin a podcast episode!” 

I talked about this before – on the blog, in my podcast, and on telesummits. Often times people think that because you have a podcast, or YouTube channel, or a blog, that you somehow have it all together, have it all figured out. When faced with a particularly challenging life struggle, clients often ask me, “When is this going to be done? Haven't I learned my lesson yet?” The answer is: it depends. Sometimes we may think that we've learned our lesson, and for a while – maybe even a few years – everything goes smoothly. And then there's that day. That day when you think that whatever lesson you thought you'd resolved comes roaring back into your life once again.

What I've learned in my 43 years on this planet is that life is but a lesson. We all have what I like to call onions – our particular life challenges, struggles, lessons that we were sent here to learn. But onions have many layers. We heal one layer and we think, “I'm done!” Only to find out weeks, months, years later that in fact we weren't done, it's time to dive deep into yet another layer.

As frustrating as these onions may be for us, I encourage you to start to look at them with a slightly different perspective. Instead of getting angry or frustrated, what if you could learn to see the beauty of the lesson that it's trying to teach you? In today's video I talk about how to do just that.

Emergence: Peeking Out from the Cocoon: Exploring the Energies of February

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February 2nd was an important day for many of us in the United States: Groundhog Day. February 2nd is the day that we anxiously await to see if Punxsutawney Phil will see his shadow (forecasting 6 more weeks of Winter). He did; leaving many of us frustrated with what has already been a long and brutal Winter.

This is not a new idea. In ancient times people turned to Brigid to forecast the remaining days of Winter on February 2nd. Instead of the U.S. Punxsutawney Phil, ancient peoples awaited Brigid’s sacred snake to emerge from his cave. The snake’s behavior indicated whether or not Winter was over. Thus, the tradition of February 2nd being an important day is not a new one.

Whether or not you want to rely on a rodent, or a snake, to predict the weather is beside the point. February 2nd marks the halfway point between Winter and Spring in the Northern Hemisphere (Summer and Fall in the Southern Hemisphere). Thus, it is a turning point in the Wheel of the Year; a time when we may feel like we have one foot in Winter and one in Spring. After a particularly long and brutal Winter, many of us are ready for it to be over. Yet, February is saying, “Not quite yet…”

I liken the energy of February to emerging from a cocoon. Many of us hibernate (or are at least less active and more introspective) during the Winter months. After the holiday season, we retreat into the safety, warmth and comfort of our homes and watch the snow fall while sitting by a warm fireplace drinking hot cocoa.

And then comes February. The robins of Spring appear. The crocuses may start to poke through the ground. Other signs of Spring begin to appear. Yet, we’re not done with Winter just yet. There may still be the occasional snow fall and the temperatures aren’t as warm as we’d like. This can lead to a lot of frustration. After a long, hard Winter, we think we’re ready for Spring! But, we’re not. We still have a few more lessons to learn and tasks to prepare.

In today’s video I discuss these key tasks that we should turn our attention to in February:

  1. Self-care – we are not out of the cocoon yet. We still need to take exquisite care of ourselves so that we will well-rested and ready when the season changes.
  2. Planning and preparation – we may have made New Year’s resolutions and goals in January, but usually by January 8th or so, those have already flown out the window. February is the time to get serious about figuring out what we want to create/manifest this year. What is calling to be birthed this year?
  3. Patience and faith – as frustrating as it might be to get glimpses of the changing of seasons without fully being there yet, we need this extra month before the seasons change to prepare for what is to come. So practice self-care, plan and prepare for your year ahead and then sit back and wait, trusting it will unfold for you in due time.

Full Moon in Leo

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This is part of a series of posts on working with Moon energy. Each New Moon and Full Moon, I will post suggestions for working with that archetype and harness the energy of the Moon’s cycle.

Full Moon Energy

The full moon is the time of a birth, a time when the seeds you planted at the New Moon prior (approximately 2 weeks ago) come to fruition. So if you set goals and intentions at the New Moon, now is a great time to bring them out and evaluate your progress.

  • What do you need to do between now and the next New Moon to birth your intentions?
  • What needs to happen in your life for that to occur?
  • What do you need to finish up?
  • What do you need to let go of?

Full Moon in Leo

Leo, the lion. When I think of lions, I think of courage, bravery, and daring. As a fire sign, Leos light up any room they walk into. They also tend to be flamboyant and like to show off and be noticed. Because of this, their motivation is off the charts and they tend to succeed at whatever they put their minds to. The downside is that Leos are sometimes seen as prideful or egotistic, or even drama Kings and Queens. Fortunately, Leos are also known for their generous and expressive nature. The best of both worlds with Leo energy? Shine that light of yours on those around you so that all can benefit.

So what does this mean for working with the Full Moon energy? You can add the energy of Leo to your Full Moon reflections by asking yourself the following questions:

  • What is my relationship to my fiery side? Have I been reining in my passions? If so, why?
  • What do I think about people who live in the “limelight?” How might my response be my shadow-self talking or my ego?
  • Where have I been hiding my light? Not shining? Not allowing myself to find and express my true potential?
  • Where has pride or ego gotten in my way and prevented me from living my Soul’s Purpose?
  • What is my Soul calling for me to do? What wants to be birthed through me right now?

Enjoy working with the Full Moon energy in Leo! It should be a fiery time for all of us.

How to Handle Your Inner Mean Girl

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Several years ago a good friend confronted me about my dirty little secret: I had an eating disorder, one I had been in denial about for over 2 decades. After a week of arguing with him, I finally admitted that I had a problem. It was time to face the facts: not only did I not love the woman in the mirror, I flat out loathed her. I felt betrayed by my body after decades of battling endometriosis and osteopenia (a side effect of one of the treatments for the endometriosis), and four failed rounds of fertility treatments. I had desperately wanted the “American dream” – 2 kids, a dog, a beautiful home with a white picket fence – but my infertility had put a severe damper on my plans. So I had been subconsciously punishing my body for her perceived betrayal by exercising too much and eating too little.

After finally admitting I had an eating disorder, I threw myself into healing with a fervent passion. I was determined to “beat” my eating disorder. And I did. But it wasn't easy and it didn't happen overnight. Why? I kept self-sabotaging. At some level, my inner mean girl (aka inner critic) didn't want me to get better. It served her to believe that I would never be good enough. After all, if you set your expectations really low, and you fail, you haven't lost much…

Yet, I was torn because I wanted to heal so I could help other women heal their relationships with food, their bodies, and themselves. I wanted to be a beacon of hope, not a beacon of failure. That meant I had to confront my inner mean girl and get to the bottom of why she: 1) didn't want to heal, and 2) believed I wasn't good enough to be worthy of my dreams. But I had no idea where to start.

One day as I was journaling, I had an epiphany: what if, instead of buying into her nonsense, I confronted her? What if I actually dialogued with her and tried to get to the bottom of her meanness? So I did. What I found surprised me:

In fact, the exact opposite was true: she wanted me to succeed. But she was so afraid of failure, she built walls “of protection” around herself – so many walls that success was highly unlikely. Furthermore, she didn't mean to self-sabotage; she just didn't want to get hurt … again. As the layers of memories and pain were revealed, she began to soften, to hope, to let go. I had to go through this process several times to really get it to stick, but the good news is that I rarely am confronted by my inner mean girl these days. Yes, I still get scared, but I allow myself to ask for help when I need it and have opened myself up enough to receive it that I rarely let fear of failure (or success or having what I want) stop me these days. 

In today's podcast, I walk you through this process. I hope it serves you:

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And if you are ready to dive a little deeper with your inner mean girl and would like some support, I just re-opened enrollment for my 7-week group coaching program, The Nourished Temple. You can learn more about it here.

I Fill Myself First

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January is over, and I couldn't be more excited. Although I love January and the idea of new beginnings and New Year's, I really look forward to February. To me, February is when the ball really starts rolling for goals I’ve set for myself in the New Year.

A few years ago, my friend and colleague, Christine Arylo, declared February international self-love month. She marked February 13 as international self-love day. No, it's not about narcissism. It's about truly learning to love, accept, and appreciate the woman you see in the mirror. While most of us associate February with Valentine's Day, a day when we celebrate our love for others, I loved Christine's idea of including yourself on that list of loved ones – of actually taking time to love, and celebrate, you.

As a result, for the past few years, I too have dubbed February my month of self-love. I've always tried to do something for myself – and for you – to help us learn to love and accept ourselves just as we are. To help us be more compassionate with ourselves. To help us fill ourselves up.

You can’t serve from your reserves (aka an empty cup).

One of my favorite poems/blog posts on this topic was Lissa Rankin’s I Fill Myself First: A Declaration (sadly, it has gone to cyber heaven and is no longer available). But I was able to find one of my favorite quotes from that blog post:

You have SUCH a big heart. I know you want to help so many. But please remember – you can’t serve up water from a dried up well. That notion you have that you must give until you’re depleted and that doing so makes you a valuable, caring person worthy of love and respect, it’s just dead wrong. You’re a valuable caring person worthy of love and respect because you have within you a piece of Divinity (moi!) and that makes you inherently valuable. Try this new mantra instead: I fill myself first so I can heal the world. ~ Lissa Rankin, MD

How will you love, appreciate, and celebrate yourself this month? I just finished the 7-day Love Your Body, Nourish Your Temple challenge. (I wanted to kick off February with a bang, so I started in January. :)) But no worries if you're just now learning about this, you can still sign up for the 7-day challenge here. Because I really wanted to kick February, the month of self-love, off with a bang, I decided to hold a call for you to share all of my favorite ways to love your body, take exquisite care of you, and ensure that you are well nourished. I invite you to join me on February 1 for my free call: the 7 Principles of Being a Well-Nourished Woman. On this call, I will be giving you activities and exercises you can do every day during the month of February to improve your relationship with your body and yourself. I hope you will join me. You can sign up here.

New Moon in Aquarius

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This continues a series of posts on working with Moon energy. Each New Moon and Full Moon, I will post suggestions for working with that archetype and harness the energy of the Moon’s cycle.

New Moon Energy

The new moon is a time of new beginnings, a time when you plant the seeds you wish to harvest over the next month. Yet, do not neglect to let go of what no longer serves before you plant those seeds. It does no good to plant seeds in a barren desert. So the night before each new moon, in the dark of the moon, I like to hold a release ceremony. Some questions to ponder might be:

  • What do you need to release before moving forward with this new moon cycle?
  • What patterns have you been holding on to that no longer serve?

Once you have let go of the old, it’s time to set your intentions for this moon cycle. I do this on the night of the New Moon. Some questions to ponder might be:

  • What do I wish to create over the next month (from New Moon to New Moon)?
  • What do I need to allow my creations to come into light?

New Moon in Aquarius

Aquarians have the unique properties of being both inquisitive (Aquarius is an Air sign) and dreamers (more of a water energy). They love to explore new things, people, and places. As such, Aquarians are great at starting new things,  finding new meaning/perspective to existing and new issues, and thinking outside of the box. They are creative and inventive and seem to have an innate ability to deal with the “technical stuff.” 

You can add the energy of Aquarius to your New Moon reflections by asking yourself the following questions:

  • What situation in my life would benefit from a perspective shift or a new way of thinking? 
  • What dream is calling me right now? What seeds do I want to plant in the New Year?
  • How can I be more open to the possibilities?
  • What doorways are being opened for me right now?
  • How can I create a positive shift in my life?

Have fun working with Aquarius in your January reflections! It should be illuminating and a little mind-blowing. 🙂

 

Coming Home to Yourself

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“I’m thinking about quitting my job,” a client said to me, “and I’m scared to death.” She’s been an accountant for 25 years. It’s all she’s ever known, career wise – at least since she entered adulthood. And yet, at 45, she’s seriously considering giving it up. Why? It’s not who she feels like she is anymore – not who she wants to be, moving forward.

“Am I just having a midlife crisis?” she asked me.

“No,” I reassured her. In the year we’ve been working together, I’ve gotten to know her pretty well. “You’re just finally coming home to yourself.”

When I start working with my private clients, I lead them through a mini-VIP Day where we go through what got them to this point, what they most want, and then set goals for our time working together. A year ago, I asked Sherri what she most wanted to do in life, what her big dream was – no holds barred – and she answered without hesitation, “I want to write romance novels.” You might have had a similar thought when it came to my next question, “Why are you an accountant then?” She shrugged. “Family business.” Her father is an accountant, as was his father. Two of her siblings are accountants. It was just assumed she would follow along in the family footsteps, and so she did.

But after working together for a year, Sherri’s beginning to understand a few things about herself: she actually doesn’t like accounting. She’s good at it; she’s made a great living at it; yet, it doesn’t nourish her Soul. And so, she’s finding herself in this place of not knowing what to do or where to go. She asking herself the tough question: “Who would I be if I wasn’t an accountant?” The beautiful thing is that she’s finally giving herself permission to answer that question. Is it scary? Absolutely. But she realizes that if she doesn’t allow herself to explore that question, she’ll always feel stagnant, less than, like she’s missing out on something bigger.

As we come to the end of the first month of 2017, I invite you to reflect on where you are, where you’re going, and where you want to be. 2017 is a year of new beginnings, and for some of you, it might be the year you finally come home to yourself – whatever that means for you.

If you’re feeling resistance to that idea of coming home to yourself or to even the idea of exploring what that might mean for you, I want to share something with you:

I give you permission. I give you permission to take care of yourself while you figure things out.

Facing questions about identity and life purpose aren’t easy. Many of us struggle with the idea of even allowing ourselves to explore those questions.

But know this:

If you want a little more support around answering these tough questions, I invite you to sign up for my free 7-Day Love Your Body, Nourish Your Temple Challenge. For me, it all comes back to self-care: you need to take exquisite care of you as you explore coming home to yourself, getting to know yourself and what you truly want in life. Come and be supported. Join us.

 

Finding Balance Amidst the Chaos

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January: new month; New Year – a time of new beginnings. Yet, on the heels of a rough 2016 and coming off of Mercury Retrograde, many of my clients are wondering: when is it going to get better? When will I be free of all of that baggage I thought I left behind in 2016?

Breathe.

2017 is the year of big dreams. It’s time to plant those seeds for everything you want to manifest in your life – even if you’re not quite sure what that is yet. But, it’s not going to happen overnight – you’ve got 11.5 more months left in 2017 after all.

Instead of trying to rush things and manifest everything you want right now, what if you could just open to the possibilities? What if you could just hold space for what is to come? Easier said than done for those of us who have a tendency to want to control everything, but stop for a moment and consider this: What if January, this time of new beginnings, is really a time to open up to what is to come? To make time for yourself to ensure you are ready for whatever 2017 may hold for you?

As many of you know, I rang in my New Year in Belize. It was with mixed feelings that I got on that plane home on January 2nd. On the one hand, I didn’t want to leave Belize – the easy-going way of life, the soothing sound of the ocean, the 80 degree weather. On the other hand, I was excited to begin my 2017 and creating my dreams for the year. I knew I needed to leave Belize and come home for that to happen.

As I was on the plane home (actually 4 planes and a boat ride!), I spent time reflecting on the lessons I learned in Belize. From the gorgeous waterfalls to zip lining over a rainforest to visiting the Mayan ruins Xanantunich to getting stuck in the middle of the ocean on a boat in the pitch black of night and praying I would make it back to the little island we were staying on, I kept getting the same message: Balance.

But what is Balance and, when it sometimes seems so elusive, how do you find it? While I sometimes wish I could just click my heels together, say “Serenity now!” and have that work, I know that finding balance amidst the chaos of life is completely up to me and my choices. Yes, life happens. Appointments get scheduled for the wrong time, miscommunications occur with family and friends, you get a flat tire on the way to work, [insert stressor], but you can still find your way back to balance.

For me, it all comes down to self-care. Regardless of what’s going on in life, I know I feel a lot healthier and find it easier to handle life’s many challenges when I am taking good care of myself. So my challenge for January is to find out what self-care works best for me. What makes me feel more balanced? I am playing with this and trying new things. I still have my morning power hour (with the addition of the morning yoga I added in Belize), but I am playing with my evening routine and daily “Goddess sanity breaks.” Some evenings I go to the gym, sometimes I journal, some days I even go rock climbing (indoors for now until the two feet of snow melts!). I am taking January to find my center, my balance point.

Each Sunday I reflect on how it went – what I want to keep, what I want to toss – not with any air of self-criticism, but more an air of self-inquiry.

If this is something you’d like to explore with me, I invite you to join my 7-Day Love Your Body, Nourish Your Temple Challenge. We start January 23rd, but you can join at any time. 7 days of audios and workbooks to help you find your balance. Join us!

Full Moon in Cancer

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This is part of a series of posts on working with Moon energy. Each New Moon and Full Moon, I will post suggestions for working with that archetype and harness the energy of the Moon’s cycle.

Full Moon Energy

The full moon is the time of a birth, a time when the seeds you planted at the New Moon prior (approximately 2 weeks ago) come to fruition. So if you set goals and intentions at the New Moon, now is a great time to bring them out and evaluate your progress.

  • What do you need to do between now and the next New Moon to birth your intentions?
  • What needs to happen in your life for that to occur?
  • What do you need to finish up?
  • What do you need to let go of?

Full Moon in Cancer

As a water sign, Cancers tend to be very emotional. Yet, much of this lies in a deep well under the surface. They need to feel secure and protected to open up. When they do feel safe, they soar – they are insightful, caring, loyal, dependable, adaptive and highly intuitive. If you're not part of their “in crowd,” however,  they may appear indecisive or moody because they don't trust you enough to bare their souls to you. 

So what does this mean for working with the Full Moon energy? You can add the energy of Cancer to your Full Moon reflections by asking yourself the following questions:

  • Am I being honest about what I'm feeling or is there something hidden beneath the surface (shadow side) that I won't let out?
  • What are my emotions telling me right now?
  • Where have I been ignoring my intuition? 
  • What is my intuition telling me to create/focus on right now? 
  • Where am I not feeling safe? What do I need to create so I can feel safe to soar to new heights?

Enjoy working with the Full Moon energy in Cancer! It should be a very intuitive time for all of us.