Blossoming Out of Myself

It's been about a decade since my then-husband gave me this bonsai plant as a gift. It lived in my academic office for years; students and colleagues arguing over whether it looked more like an elephant or a woman dancing.

I smiled as they debated, letting them think whatever they saw was ‘right.' But I knew better. I knew that this little ficus tree was me.

A divorce, two broken heels, two business launches, numerous interviews, and a failed relationship later, it wasn't until several months ago that my bonsai plant forgot it was supposed to be a bonsai plant and started to grow beyond itself.

The gardener in me knew I was supposed to clip its wings. After all, it is a bonsai. But, I didn't dare. This plant, this little ficus tree, was me. And I was ready to fly.

I moved it to my bedroom to allow it to have more sun exposure. “Grow, little bonsai, Grow!” I told it. I caressed its ever-expanding foliage. I reassured it,

You see, like my little bonsai, I have blossomed out of myself; the woman I once was holding space for and giving birth to the woman I am now. It was a beautiful unfolding – one not without turbulence, pain and grief, but one that gave me the soil I needed to grow forth from, to expand. For every drop of life experience that went into nourishing that soil, I am grateful, so very grateful.

If you, like me, are ready to spread your wings, expand your reach, and blossom out of yourself, know that the time is ripe. Spring is the perfect time to blossom out of yourself. To plant the seeds that you will harvest in the coming months or years.

As you answer this, here are 5 questions to ponder:

  1. Who am I – right now in this moment? List all your roles, obligations, dreams, desires.
  2. One year from now, who do I want to be? Again, list all of your desired roles, dreams, etc. Don't hold back.
  3. How am I holding space for myself to blossom out of who I am?
  4. What steps do I need to take to get there?


If you need a little more help blossoming outside of yourself, today’s video discusses the Art of Manifestation.




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