Everyday GODDESS: Debra Oakland

Debra-Close-upOver a short 6 years Debra lost her 21 year old son, her baby girl in the 8th month of pregnancy, both brothers to AIDS and her father to prostate cancer. Debra began her life altering path, becoming a writer, courage advocate and joyful experiencer. She now writes, speaks and works with Universal Laws & Principles of Love that assist others to live courageously from the inside out

What does being an Everyday Goddess mean to you?

Connecting to the Divine aspects of Love & Light within myself on a daily basis is what brings out the Everyday Goddess in me. Women are coming together to assist in a massive transformational shift on the planet. We are connecting to the heart through the Divine Feminine where there is a re-balancing of masculine/feminine, mind/heart, light/love – which is reflecting out into the world. It is magical and life altering to be part of this paradigm shift. We are energy and how we use our energy matters.


At what age did you awaken to the presence of the Divine Feminine and would you describe it as a sudden awakening or a gentle unfolding?

A gentle unfolding. I came in with a connection to my higher self, aware of many things that I did not notice some people paying attention to. I was sensitive to and picked up on things that did not ring true or authentic. My solar plexus does a somersault when I see or hear things that are not in line with our highest and greatest good as a collective. Love is the objective. When we are in integrity with ourselves and others, life unfolds with it's intended goal of JOY.



What roles in your life had to transform in order for you to live authentically?

I have found the biggest transformation has been not to be a follower. We are programmed by family, friends and society to fit in. When we try to fit a square peg into a round hole, it doesn't work. Authenticity is critical to our spiritual development. Once I became a young adult I began de-progamming from many old patterns. It feels so good being me without all the outer world influences telling me who I should be. I always say, never ‘should' on anybody! Living from the inside out is the best way to fly and brings such a sense of true inner peace and happiness. One of the quotes on my website is “If you can’t get out of the box people put you in, chew a hole in the corner and crawl out.” That one makes me smile. 🙂 I came to the realization that I wanted to be a full-time writer. I had been writing since I was young but hid it all thinking, “Who would want to read what I have to say?” We all have a voice as unique to us as our stories. The wisdom gained and shared can benefit many people.


What have been some of the greatest inner gifts you’ve experienced since stepping into your feminine power?

The most important inner gift for me personally is courage. Because of the loss I experienced in those six years with no break to catch my breath, courage became a welcome traveling partner. This courage comes from my Higher Self, my I Am Perfected Presence which I connect with daily – my God/Goddess Source means everything to me. It's who I am when I am not in wrapped in a physical form – my true essence. Expressing that essence of love into the outer world is where the work comes in. We are all challenged throughout our lives and without those challenges we don't grow mentally, physically or spiritually. Gratitude is my daily mantra.


Can you share some of your favorite sacred feminine rituals?

The first sacred feminine ritual I do in the morning is to meditate. I go deep into this state as I connect in different ways, depending on my mood. Many of these meditations will be included in my upcoming book. One of my favorite scenarios I create in meditation is to imagine myself standing under the most beautiful waterfall – it is otherworldly. The water is slightly cool and refreshes me as rainbow colors of healing light flow through the water over my body. There are birds singing and animals all around in a tropical setting. As I leave the water, I sit and converse with all of Mother Nature and her Kingdoms. It's lovely!I am fortunate to live across the street from one of the most beautiful beaches. I find that sitting quietly in one of the coves, or walking along the water is a meditative ritual as well. Flowers, candles, oils are all delicious as well.

Is there a particular Goddess that you are intimately drawn to and why?

There are so many, but Maya Angelou is one that resonates with me on a deep soul level. Maya passed recently and will be missed by many in this world, she exemplified courage, love, forgiveness, compassion and all the great qualities of LOVE. She walked her talk daily with authenticity, grace and peace. Women who have a strong belief in themselves with determination to overcome adversity while striving to live their passion and purpose INSPIRE!  Our world is full of amazing women coming together, linked arm in arm in support of the highest and greatest good for all. Thank you Goddesses for being Living Examples!

Is there a personal message that you would like to share with women?  

Take your power back from wherever it has been. You are enough, you are loved, you are perfect. Never let anyone take your power away. Be YOU in all your Divine Feminine Beauty and Gorgeousness! Connect to your heart, trust in your heart to guide you, and be the Goddess you came her to be – in full expression. Thank you Mary for inviting me to share this time with you and your readers. I am grateful and blessed to be here with you all.

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