Figuring Out Who You Are

pensive womanIn Fall of 2013, I got divorced and then (not because of the divorce) spent the next 4 months on crutches nursing a broken heel. And I found myself at a loss. I couldn’t ‘do’ many of the things that made me me. Newly divorced, I was no longer a wife. I was on sabbatical, so I wasn’t technically a college professor either. I couldn’t run, so I wasn’t a runner.

I was single, had just turned 40 and had no idea what I wanted to be when I grew up because all of my dreams had been shattered in the previous 6 months.

So I had to start over.

The first step was finding me again because I no longer knew who I was.

So how do you start? Watch the video below to find out!



  • teri says:

    so true…figure out who you are, and who you’re not…so you can figure out what you want. I loved your tips on how to get there because it’s not such an easy question! Thanks for helping us on the path to clarity!

  • Stacey says:

    Hi Mary!

    I love the different strategies you offered to hep women define who they are and how they can get CLOSER to who they really, really, really want to be!

    I especially loved the second strategy of defining all of your roles (including cookie baker!) and asking, “Is this really an expression of who I am and who I want to be?” If not — then you need to stop doing it.

    Thanks so much for sharing!!

  • Being a writer, I think journaling (free writing) can be so incredibly powerful. I can say about my own life, that who I am is always evolving. The more I learn, experience, and connect with others, the more I continue to evolve. It makes life so exciting — especially when I allow myself to accept that wherever I am in the moment is exactly where I need to be so that I can evolve to whatever comes next. Thank you for your video and the guidance you offer others. I appreciate you!!

  • Updating the vision of who we are is so important to do as a regular practice. There are the moments of crisis when that is demanded of us. Then there is the ever-evolving nature of who we are that calls us to know ourselves at ever-deepening levels. As I change, my vision of myself needs to align with that. Thank you for bringing this out, Mary!

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