promiseI think most of us have learned that when we are upset, it is in our best interest to forgive those that hurt us. After all, forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past could have been any different. And since the past can never be changed, it is certainly wise to let it go.


How often have you sat down, pen on paper, and written a heart-felt letter to yourself… for all the times you let yourself down, disappointed yourself, criticized yourself? For all the times you didn’t speak your truth or walk in your power? For all the times you let people use you because you were too scared to stand up for yourself? For all the times you looked at your body and felt nothing but anger, resentment, and betrayal?


As my infertility issues were triggered in a powerful way over the weekend, instead of berating myself for not having healed them yet, I sat down and wrote myself a letter. Maybe it’s not infertility you struggle with, but I bet it’s something: your weight, your relationship with food, with your body, with yourself. We all have issues. We all have disappointments. We all have tendencies to sometimes be our own worst enemies instead of our own best friends.


As I went through another layer of healing my relationship with my body, I wrote myself this letter. I share it with you here in the hopes that it inspires you to show yourself a little more kindness, a little more forgiveness, a little less judgment. I hold space for you to write yourself a letter of forgiveness. I hope you find this exercise as healing as I did. (And yes, let the tears flow…)



Dear Mary,

I am so sorry. I apologize from the depths of my heart for every making you feel like you weren’t enough, for focusing on your ‘brokenness.’

I am so grateful for this sacred womb temple of mine that allows me to give birth to new life/projects/ideas – my womb is my precious power center. I apologize for not realizing that before now.

I apologize for doubting you, for ever believing for even one second that your value was somehow tied to your … beauty, work ethic, do-ing, producing results for others, your ability to give birth to a child.

I am so sorry I hurt you. I value you and love you wholly, deeply.

You are enough. You are more than enough.  You are a creative soul, so nurturing, so giving, so beauty-full. I love you because you give your all, you keeping trying, you continue to see the good in people and situations where others might not. I love your smile and your big heart. I love your devotion to growth and self-improvement.


Here is my promise to you:


I will set boundaries to make sure your needs are met.

I will take care of you.

I accept you fully, just as you are.

I will always choose you.

I support you.

I will always be there for you.

And I will never, ever break a promise to you again.

I love you.



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