How to Improve Your Relationship with the Woman in the Mirror

About a year ago I was giving a talk to a group of local business women. It was right before International Self-Love Day (Feb 13th) and I was explaining the difference between self-esteem and self-love. One woman in the audience raised her hand.

“You mean the nasty things I say about myself in the morning when I get dressed isn't self-love?”


She was genuinely shocked. She truly believed that if she had high self-esteem, which she thought she did, that meant she loved herself. That couldn't be further from the truth.

So how do you learn to love the woman in the mirror? This week's video gives you a simple step you can take starting today.


Inner Goddess Wisdom Tip:

Draw a heart on your hand everyday to remind yourself to take exquisite care of yourself. Bonus for saying, “I love you,” while looking deep into your own eyesย in the mirror and meaning it!


  • Great video, Mary, and I love that simple (but not always easy) action step. I also appreciate your authenticity and positive presence. Thanks for sharing.

  • Stacey says:

    I love seeing other people talking about and sharing the power of self love!!! Thank you for sharing your gifts.

  • Chara says:

    Mary, I am moved by how authentic and genuine you are in this video. You are really modeling, not only with your content but with your beautifully simple and vulnerable presentation, what it is to face ourselves honestly and accept and love who we are. This is a lovely video.

  • Lisa Hutchison says:

    Mary, I love that I can put a voice to your picture! Thanks for the inspiration and tips for self-love. <3

  • Mary,

    Love your title. This is the subject of a workshop I’m doing in Feb too—self love and self care. It’s sad to me how much we don’t think it’s important to take care of who we are—all of us. But I used to be the same way (and I’ll admit at times I have to catch myself) of not taking care of myself. Thanks for sharing this important message with your readers!

    Great post and topic!

    • Mary E. Pritchard, Ph.D. says:

      I always do a lot with self-love and self-care in February as well as it is International Self-love month! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  • Greta says:

    I’m starting to “see” that no matter how much I want to be a light to the world, it HAS to start with(in) me. Remember the song “This Little Light of Mine” … I love that song, but there’s nothing “little” about our inner light and it’s about time we realize it (talking to myself really, but if someone else “gets it” too, all the better). Thank you Dr. Mary. I’m so grateful that I opened your 2nd e-mail to me (just in case I missed the first one) and took time for me, just listening, reading, exploring … Wow. Thank you!

  • Donna Brown says:

    Hay House recently gave a me a copy of a free book, and I chose “Mirror Work” by Louise Hay. It has action for 21 days that revolves around doing exactly what you suggest with the bathroom mirror, along with affirmations to say and meditations and visualizations to go with them. I have been meaning to begin that for the past 2 days, because I know that self-love is the next big piece of my picture, the piece that’s going to enable me to implement the rest of the pieces I’ve been studying for the last 6 1/2 years.. I’ve known it for a long a time, and been searching for the concrete action steps I need to take to make it happen. But now that I have them, I find myself hesitating and procrastinating, which is frustrating. I am trying not to call myself” chicken”. Anyway, I like the heart on the hand thing; one of the things Louise suggests is to do the affirmations a hundred times a day, so I think if I use your heart trick to remind me, that might actually happen. I may put it on the back of my hand, though, because I don’t look at my palm all that often. Ooo — an idea for a piece of jewelry! (Thank you, Universe!)

    • Dr Mary Pritchard says:

      I love Louise Hay, but I haven’t read that particular book. I’ll pick up a copy as it sounds right up my alley!

  • Aleksandra says:

    It is really touching and powerful, Mary.

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