Lessons from My Muse, Inner Goddess and the Fox

Tree in shadow 250x250When I was in graduate school, my two favorite TV shows centered around women who kicked ass and took names: Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Xena: Warrior Princess. Like the heroes from the comic books I read in childhood, these women used their superpowers for the good of the world, and themselves.

I’ve often wondered what it would be like to have a superpower or to be a real warrior princess, but then it occurred to me that all Buffy and Xena’s “powers” seemed to do was get them into more trouble. Like attracts like after all. It’s the law of attraction. If being a “warrior princess” means you put more emphasis on the “warrior” part than on the “princess” part, then more ass kicking (and not the good kind) is what you’ll likely attract.

So scratch that. Maybe my superpower should involve being nice. Or maybe we need to rethink what it means to be a warrior princess. According to dictionary.com, the word “warrior” means: 1) “a person engaged or experienced in warfare; soldier.” Or 2) “a person who shows or has shown great vigor, courage, or aggressiveness, as in politics or athletics.”

The first definition is clearly out, as is the second half of the second definition. But if we just look at the first part of the first definition, we have, “a person who shows or has shown great vigor [or] courage.” Now that’s something I can wrap my brain around. Who doesn’t aspire to be more vigorous and/or more courageous?

And because we are awakening the Goddess within, we need to focus on our Feminine Vigor and Feminine Courage, which brings me to my latest “Aha!” moment. I was doing one of Lisa Tener’s Meet Your Writing Muse meditations. That particular day I was looking for guidance from my Muse on the direction I should take with an area of one of my chapters that was giving me trouble. Instead of getting a clear answer from my Muse, she showed me a bunch of foxes.

Now you’re probably wondering, “What do foxes have to do with anything?” I wondered the same thing, but being the researcher that I am in my academic life, I decided to find out “Why foxes?” I got my answer. Foxes are a symbol of Feminine courage. Of Gentleness. All traits that a Warrior Princess (or a Goddess) should embody in my mind.

My next question was the same, “Why foxes?” But this time I asked it from a place of “Why do I need Feminine Courage and Gentleness in my life right now?” That’s kind of a “duh” question, though. When do we not need to be courageous and do things that scare us? When do we not need to be more gentle with ourselves?

What my Muse was telling me was that I needed to follow my heart and make some changes in my life. Yes, they would be scary. Yes, they would require courage. Yes, I would need to be extra gentle with myself as I went through these changes. But the fox and the Goddess and my Muse had my back. By showing me a den of foxes, my Muse was letting me know that I am not alone. Even when things get rough. Even when we’re embarking on a new chapter (a.k.a., Warrior Princess Adventure) in our lives, we are never alone. We have friends and family. We have our Muses. We have foxes (or whatever you spirit totem animal may be right now – more on that in future blogs). And always, always, we must remember that the Goddess has our backs. Trust in that and know that you can do anything, even if it’s just a little bit scary.


  • Linda Joy says:

    Mary, you my friend are a Goddess Superhero who epitomizes courage and authenticity… It’s been such a gift to witness your unfolding. Your courage in honoring your truth,even when it meant turning your life inside-out, continues to inspire me. I’m honored to support you in sharing your truth and your message of empowering women to awaken their inner goddess.

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