Lessons Learned From Wicked

Witches Hat and Broom



Last night I was fortunate enough to see the traveling Broadway production Wicked. Not only was it Wickedly good, but I also found it very cathartic. I was so moved by the show’s message, that I spent the second half of the performance feeling the tears streaming down my face as I watched and listened to the moving lyrics.


Wicked has so many lessons contained within it – half of them I didn’t even know I needed to learn. But, once again, the Universe delivered.

  • We get what we expect – when you label someone as ‘wicked’ or ‘bad’ or ‘selfish’, you get what you ask for. You will tend to see the traits of that person that confirm your beliefs about them. Because my ex-husband didn’t work outside of the home for the last 13 years of our marriage, I labelled him as ‘lazy’. Every night when I got home from work, I would ask him about his day. He would catalog every single thing he had done that day in an effort to prove to me that he wasn’t lazy. I, on the other hand, was usually appalled by what I considered his less than stellar list of accomplishments that day. Same list, different interpretation. He saw what he had done that day; I saw what he hadn’t.
  • Intelligence is not the opposite of beauty – in school I was a nerd, always have been. Still am. Somewhere along the way I learned that if you’re smart, you can’t: be popular, play sports, make friends, go on dates, or be pretty. And so I wasn’t. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize that we are all intelligent creatures. We each excel at something different and that’s what makes the world work the way it does. Yes, I have a PhD in Psychology. Yes, I am a devout and practicing nerd. And yes, I am beautiful, have friends, love to run, and am well-liked by my colleagues, friends, clients, and students.
  • Courage is not the opposite of fear – if we were never afraid to try something, we might never be motivated enough to conquer our fears and actually accomplish more than we ever thought possible. Yes, sometimes courage requires a leap of faith, but you’ll never learn to fly otherwise.
  • Kindness is always the best choice, especially in your relationship with yourself. We all make mistakes, but the fact that we are our own worst enemies tends to amplify their power over us. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Forgive others, forgive yourself. Let go of past resentments and grievances so your heart can open up to hold more loving kindness.
  • Endings are really beginnings – you know the old adage that for every door that closes another one opens? Sometimes you have to let go of the past, let go of what is familiar to find something really wonderful. Sometimes you have to slam that door firmly shut to get a new one to open. And sometimes you might get stranded in a dark hallway while you’re waiting for this new door to open. But open it will. Patience, grasshopper!
  • Different doesn’t mean bad – sometimes you’ll never know how good it can be until you try something new and unusual. I’m not saying you have to go out and try fish eyeball soup. But had I never tried dark chocolate with sea salt and almonds, I never would have known those three ingredients make a phenomenal dessert.

So why did Wicked move me to tears? It made me realize how beautiful we all are – warts, green skin, and all. And how cruel we can be – to ourselves, to others. And that when all we do is try to fit in to someone else’s definition of what we should be or do, sometimes we lose ourselves in the process. And that is a shame – because we are all wonderful and perfect just as we are.

What will you do to honor yourself today, Goddess?

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