After the initial shock wore off that a woman I barely knew was messaging me about some really weird thing on Facebook, it dawned on me: she was right. I hadn't been walking in my power because I'd been too busy giving it away.
The problem was that I wasn't really sure what taking back my power or walking in my power even meant. I always learned growing up that power was a bad thing – if you have power, then you have power over somebody else. I didn't want that. That didn’t feel good to me. So I had to figure out – what is this elusive thing called power and why did I need to walk in it?
It’s been quite the 4-year journey since that random message I received on Facebook. But since then I've come to define my power as this:
- it's my ability to share my truth from my heart,
- it's my ability to stay true to me and what's best for me regardless of what anybody else thinks,
- it's listening to the voice of my inner wisdom – my connection to Divine – and honoring it.
So how did I do it? How did I take back my power and learn to walk in it?
- I stopped trying to please everybody else, because I realized that was exercise in futility. – This was not easy to do, mind you. I had been the “yes” woman for so long that I had people trained to assume that if they asked me to do something, I would graciously comply. More on how I did that in today’s video.
- Rather than turning to everyone else for advice, I started listening to that still small voice inside of me because I realized that I actually do know what’s best for me. – This again was challenging. I had become so disconnected from myself that I could barely hear that still, small voice and I certainly didn’t trust it. But over time, and with practice, I learned to reconnect with my intuition.
- Most importantly, I stopped hiding who I am and started sharing from a place of my authentic truth – the real me. Purple-streaked hair and all.
I want to leave you with this thought:
But you don’t need someone else to tell you what to do. You have everything you need inside of you.