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It’s Time to Call Back Your Power

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Goddesses, it is time to call back our power.

I was talking to a client of mine yesterday. We were doing inner mean girl/self-love healing affirmation work. I asked her if she was standing in her power. She said, “No, I don't know that I have any power.”

Oh my sweet Goddess, you have all the power, so much more than you know. You've just been giving it away to everyone else in an effort to [fill in the blank: please them, not shine too brightly, not appear too boastful, not draw too much attention to yourself, make sure you don't offend anyone …]

It is time to call back your power.

 

A Goddess is a power-full woman.

 

A Queen is a power-full woman.

 

Remember this line from our Queen's Code: A Queen does not give away her power, nor does she take power away from others. A Queen acts from a place of empowerment – empowering herself and others.

 

Last week we asked the question: What would it take for you to be Queen of Your Own Life? As I was reflecting upon my answers, I decided it was time to make a commitment to myself, a manifesto if you will. This manifesto is more than just a code or creed to me; it's a reminder of what Queens do and do not do.  If it serves you, I encourage you to use it as a model to write your own.

 

The Queen's Manifesto:

My body is a sacred vessel of the Divine, and within it lies my power. I am a container for all that is creative, nurturing, and sensual. I pulsate with radiant life force energy.

 

As Queen and Goddess of My Own Life,

I do not need or seek your approval, for all the acknowledgement I need lies within me.

 

I am confident, in myself and my life's work. I feel safe and secure, knowing full well that as a power-full woman I can take care of myself. Universe will provide for all of my wants and needs. All I have to do is ask for what I want and then let go, trusting I will get what I need in due time.

 

I am a Divine Creatrix, balanced in both masculine and feminine sides of myself. I am one with all, yet wholly and completely myself. I use my powers to bring joy and love upon those I allow into my life. I give my love freely with no expectation or conditions, to those worthy of receiving it, and I share my gifts, my light with the world.

 

This is the premise upon which I live my life, as Queen, Goddess, and Divine Priestess of my Life. I am sacred. I am holy. I am me.

 

What Does It Mean to Be Queen of Your Own Life?

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queenI had a conversation with one of the women in 30 Days to BodyLove the other day and she remarked that she would love to be able love herself with  an unwavering confidence and belief in herself. I told her that you can love yourself like that. You just need to take over as Queen of your own life because You get to decide your own worth!

Her reply was, “When does the course start?”

That's when I realized something: so many of us struggle to be Queen of our own lives. It's not something we've ever been taught how to do. We know how to give and care for others, that got covered somewhere in our curriculum of life. But no one ever taught us how to be ourselves – or that it was okay to be ourselves – and do our own thing without having to seek approval from others.

So, yes, I do need to offer a course in How to Be Queen of Your Own Life – and it's coming. But, I think for now we need to define what that actually means.

I spent part of my Saturday on a mini-retreat. I went up in the mountains and ran in the snow. My goal: to leave that part of myself behind that still operated on ‘Princess' mode – the part that was still waiting for someone to save her from herself and fix all of her problems. You see, to be a Queen, a sovereign of your own life, you have to take responsibility for all parts of your life. So I went up as high as I could go, nearly froze my butt off and spoke my words of release; I felt so much freer for having done so.

When I got down off that mountain, I got out my journal and I started pondering what being a Queen meant to me. It's a work in progress, but this is what I came up with. Feel free to use this as a base for your own list or scratch it and start one of your own.

Goddess Dr. Mary's Queen's Code:

 

A Queen listens to understand, not to be right. She also allows the other party time to speak their mind, without interrupting.

 

A Queen never castrates a man, or another woman. She never tries to deprive someone of strength, power, or efficiency; she never seeks to weaken someone else for her own gain.

 

A Queen feels safe and secure in herself, and knows that she can look after herself; on all aspects of her being – financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually.

 

 

A Queen apologize for her mistakes sincerely and then leaves it alone.

 

A Queen allows her King to ‘win' her favor. She asks him to help her and provide for her, thanks him, and shows her appreciation. She allows herself to be helped and provided for. 

 

A Queen realizes she doesn't have to do it all alone; that she has strengths and weaknesses and devotes her time and energy to those things that matter most to her, allowing others to help her with things she'd rather not spend time and energy on. She appreciates the strengths and gifts of others as she does her own.

 

A Queen keeps all of her energy tanks full, especially her sexual energy tank, at all times so that she can be of service to others. A Queen allows her King to help her keep her tanks running on all cylinders. 

 

A Queen is comfortable be-ing her true self with those she resonates with.

 

A Queen never competes, she collaborates.

 

A Queen knows what's best for her and sets boundaries accordingly, especially when it comes to intimacy.

 

A Queen is in partnership with her King and knows how to effectively ‘make deals' so both parties get their needs met with the least amount of loss on both sides

 

A Queen accepts accountability consciously as to not wear herself out. 

 

A Queen allows her King to be her Hero.

 

A Queen trusts her intuition.

 

A Queen celebrates her accomplishments so she can keep moving forward.

 

A Queen does what brings her joy.

 

A Queen surrounds herself with those who truly see her

 

A Queen surrenders to existence, to every single experience being shown to her in her reality.

 

A Queen accept herself exactly as she is right now.

 

A Queen relishes in her body, and taps into her body's wisdom. She lets her body speak to her.

 

A Queen recognizes the need for both Masculine and Feminine, not putting one above the other.

 

I claim the freedom from having to do everything myself. I need help and I am able to ask for it. I claim the ability to be supported, to receive. I claim the Queen’s Code.

 

If you're ready to be a Queen, I have started a monthly challenge on FaceBook. This month we are working on learning to receive. Join us!

Everyday GODDESS: Kelly Schaefer

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A skilled, “multi-tasking” mother of four, and Registered Nurse, Kelly Schaefer is the owner of Task Complete, a full service Lifestyle Management company. In business today, she upholds a mission of giving families and busy professionals reliable and compassionate assistance so they can meet the demands of everyday life. As CEO and Lifestyle Management coach, it is her purpose to help you manage the minutia of day to day living to live an abundant life, full out and in joy.

What does being an Everyday Goddess mean to you?

To me, being an Everyday Goddess means living a full life! As a mother I have witnessed so many other women and mothers in general who restrict themselves of living and enjoying life by giving over all their time to their friends, family and society, saving none for themselves. Being an Everyday Goddess means living a life on your own terms, enjoying the beauty that life and living has to offer and acknowledging that we are that powerful, and we can have it all. We are truly meant to live and enjoy what our life has to offer and not just live through it.

 

At what age did you awaken to the presence of the Divine Feminine and would you describe it as a sudden awakening or a gentle unfolding?

Holy wow! I want to say I was smacked upside the head just a few years ago. I was living my life by what society says a mother and woman should do, but inside I felt as if “I” was slowly slipping away. All the fire and humor and passion for life was slowly being replaced with “tasks” and “need to dos”. My business was taking over my life and I began losing the joy I used to see in the world, replaced with worry and fear as to whether or not I would be “successful”. What I have learned is that I am and always have been all of these things, and it is THAT which makes us a Goddess. All the bumps and bruises and inner truth and desire all balled up into one perfect feminine.

 

What roles in your life had to transform in order for you to live authentically?

I needed to start focusing on what I really wanted. That was a well-balanced life full of love, joy, and of course fun! I stopped listening to other people who told me that in order for my family to be happy I needed to always be there. And in order for my business to thrive I had to have strict hours of operation and let go of all my household responsibilities. But these were things that brought me joy.

I also needed to learn to let go off the strong masculine I had lived in for decades. That masculine served me well for a very long time, but now was a time for growing, changing and evolving into a well-balanced Goddess, using both my innate feminine and masculine energies symbiotically.

 

What have been some of the greatest inner gifts you’ve experienced since stepping into your feminine power?

I get to be more of me. I speak up when I need something, I have learned to ask for help and accept it! I have learned that things around me don’t always have to be “perfect”.  I learned that I can be powerful, successful, a mother and a lover all at once, all while embracing my feminine and allowing myself to be open and to receive and not just always use my masculine to get what I need or want. It brings within an inner calm. It creates a space in your life where you actually stop and enjoy and witness all the beauty and abundance around you instead of always forcing forward for the next big accomplishment.

 

Can you share some of your favorite sacred feminine rituals?

I love beautiful things! Anything that makes me feel abundant! Fresh flowers and candles in my working space. Taking the time to exercise my body and mind on a regular basis. And the #1 way is dancing!! Something happens to me and spirit works through me when I dance, no holding back, just fluid body to the beat of the music.

 

Is there a particular Goddess that you are intimately drawn to and why?

I have 2 actually! It’s so typical to my duality! Athena for her courage, strength, wisdom and belief in justice. And of course Aphrodite for she is the embodiment of beauty and love and for me represents abundance and experiencing daily pleasures. Pleasures of beautiful flowers in a garden or on your desk. Beauty in the clothes we feel most Goddess in. Being purely open and feminine.

 

Is there a personal message that you would like to share with women?  

No matter where you are in life at this moment, you have the power to change it and live a life full love and joy. All you need to do is decide, gain support from others around you and open yourself to receive the richest life imaginable. A life by your own design.

 

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How to Be a Goddess

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Mary1Are you ready to fully embrace your Goddess self in 2015? I know I am. 2013 was the Year of the Cosmic 2×4 for me. 2014 was supposed to be the Year of Me, and it was, but not the way I originally envisioned it. You see, I kept giving my power away and kept having to fight to take it back.

2015 is going to be different. Why? I learned a lot about myself in 2014 and spent much of the past few months releasing what no longer served – old beliefs, old patterns, old archetypes that were dragging me down.

I had a conversation with my friend and chiropractor a few weeks ago. She was helping me identify and release the Madonna complex. I had asked her what I was supposed to do after I released the Madonna complex to ensure I didn't fall back into that old trap again. She said, “You have to make up your own Goddess.” I thought what a great, fun idea that sounded like. But, it's more than that. It's not just about making up a new Goddess; it's about Be-ing Her. Be-ing the Goddess within.

Are you ready to Be a Goddess? Here's how.

1) Decide on a name – it might be your own name, or if you want to start anew, or you might choose a different name (Note: I am not saying you have to legally change or name or even tell anyone about your new Goddess name; you're doing this for you, so it's up to you who you decide to tell)

2) Look through books, websites, goddess oracle cards, the Featured Goddess section of this website and write down all the traits you admire in your fellow Goddesses. You can even choose traits from real people, if you'd like. (Check out the Everyday Goddess section for inspiration!)

3) Decide what you want to be Goddess of. Your domain might be Love, Creativity, the Arts, Business Success, etc.

4) Decide which of the traits you listed above are central to your new Goddess identity. Pick at least three traits, but no more than seven. (You can't be Goddess of everything!)

5) Write down your Goddess story – did you rise like a Phoenix out if the ashes, did you ride in on a seashell from the ocean, did you just appear full grow one day? This is your new Goddess story; it doesn't have to look anything like your original story.

6) Make up your own prayer – if people were to pray to you, what would they be praying to you for? (See Featured Goddess section for examples)? Do they value your strength, your wisdom, your cunning, your boldness?

7) Decide how your followers should pay tribute to you? Every Goddess needs a temple, or at the very least an altar. What should your followers bring you or do on your behalf to show their appreciation for you? (Again check out the Featured Goddess section for ideas.)

Go here to see my Goddess self!

Now we get to the really fun part!

 

8) Get to know your new Goddess self – How does she start and end her day? What does she like to eat for breakfast? How does she spend her time? What does she most enjoy doing? What are her hobbies? Design your ideal Goddess day and life here. Go wild!

 

9) Decide how your new Goddess self will dress and act – Does she always wear purple? Does she wear a certain piece of jewelry? How does she act when people come to pay tribute to her? What happens if they disrespect her? Remember: this is the new Goddess you. She may behave or dress very differently than the original you.

 

10) Decide how you are going to invoke your Goddess self – Are you going to hold a ritual? Say a prayer? Will the act of dressing a certain way or wearing certain jewelry serve as your invocation/reminder to be your new Goddess self?

 

11) Be a Goddess! – Expect people to treat you differently; you are a Goddess after all. People learn how to treat you based on how you treat yourself and what you will and won't put up with. It make take a few times interacting with the new Goddess you before they realize they can't treat you like they used to. That's okay. You don't need to be vindictive about it. Just gently let them know through your words and actions how you'd like to be treated and that they either need to get on board – and start paying tribute to you! – or get out of your life.

 

12) Be gentle with yourself – Being a Goddess may take some adjustment on your part too. You might fall into old patterns or want to change some of your new Goddess traits. That's perfectly fine. You're a Goddess; you're certainly allowed to make mistakes and change your mind. When you fall off track, just go back to your Goddess invocation ritual (or whatever you do to invoke your new Goddess self) and do it again. Or maybe you need to do your invocation daily or change something about it to make it more powerful for you. Play with it! Have fun! You're a Goddess!

 

Let's make 2015 the Year of the Goddess, shall we? See your Goddess self on the other side!

Bravery – Jodi Chapman

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When we are brave enough to share our true authentic self with the world, we make room for miracles. When we remember that we’re all different and that it’s okay to not look like someone else or talk like someone else or share like someone else – it’s actually preferable that you are in your own lane doing your own thing following your own heart. Because that’s where the true magic lies. – Jodi Chapman

Everyday GODDESS: Jan Deelstra

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Women’s Empowerment Coach and Transformational Author, Jan Deelstra is the author of Blessings in the Mire: A True Story of Miracles & Recollections; Escaping the Chrysalis: Introduction to Gestalt Techniques for Self-Esteem Transformation; Shadows Attached: Mad Woman Poetry; Chasing Rabbits & I Am…: The Art of Attainment; Inspiring Words For Reflection; The Flying Game and coming soon, Infinite Pie. Her life’s calling is helping others find their wings, connecting everyday life to spirituality.

What does being an Everyday Goddess mean to you?

Being an Everyday Goddess means to courageously follow my authentic calling as a transformational author and women’s empowerment coach, consciously leading by example while supporting others’ unfolding wings. It carries a responsibility of being continuously in the awakening process, of honing self-awareness, and of continuing to evolve even in the grip of those who would love to hold captive, the status quo. It implies a constant connection to Mother Earth and to the Universal Source of Creation, and it necessitates an aura of expansion, compassion, cooperation, nonjudment and support for all others, and receptivity to the allowance of energy circulation, while remaining true to my ‘self’. It means embracing the ‘whole’ of beingness –learning to step fully into the light, and to love every facet of who I am as I encourage others to do the same.

 

At what age did you awaken to the presence of the Divine Feminine and would you describe it as a sudden awakening or a gentle unfolding?

Although my mother was in and out of my life by the time I was around the age of five or six, she was highly intuitive and taught me to be in touch with my intuition, so the seeds to my awakening to the presence of the Divine Feminine, if not innate via DNA, were planted early. But the sprouts were severed following the death of my brother/best friend in 1977. He was 22, and I was 24. His birth was 2 years and 2 days after mine, and we grew up close. He died of what the Medical Examiner determined to be, “unknown, natural causes.” He died in his sleep, like an infant succumbs to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). In this case, it was SADS –Sudden Adult Death Syndrome, something that occurs not infrequently. To lose a close loved-one, confidant, and the one sibling who had been with me through the dark and the light, was unforgiveable. With no reason for such profound loss, I abandoned all belief in a higher power and disowned my former spirituality. “If there was a God or Higher Power,” I reasoned, “my brother would not have been taken for ‘no reason’.”  My slate of beliefs was wiped clean with one fast swipe by the hand of Death. And as blessings are known to surface and blossom from seeds of despair, it was the place where I began to question everything, and to learn so much about my spirit and spirituality. It was my ‘ground zero.’  And it was the foundation for all I am today.

 

What roles in your life had to transform in order for you to live authentically?

Because my father died suddenly when I was only 18 months old, leaving my mother pregnant and with three children she was ill-equipped to support,  my childhood was a duct taped tapestry of fragments pieced together from slivers of several foster homes. I was a child of the fifties, with no consistent male role model outside of black and white television programs where “Father Knows Best.” Having no father, I learned to be ultra-aware of how others operated and take what I could get from a soup of examples. In the end, I let go of a lot of traditional patriarchal values and beliefs in order to learn to own my voice, and to trust myself, as indeed, I quickly learned that I was the only one I could consistently depend on. I was shy, awkward, and terribly curious about life, so I had to learn to own my small voice, and to own my power. That strength came in handy when I became a Teamster truck driver in order to support my three young children following a divorce when I was twenty-three. Somehow I kept my feminine spirit even as I learned to change tires on semi-tractors, and double-clutch the big rigs, and mastered ‘heavy-highway’ equipment. I had to learn to trust myself explicitly when traditional male truckers and their curious and/or insecure loves and wives showed up to take a look at this ‘Mother Trucker’ –this woman who had dared infiltrate the status quo. The bigger truth was that I wasn’t there to get a man. I was there because I had three youngsters to feed, and working in a traditional role as truck driver was the only way I could figure –having no education, how to support my babies on my own. But I consciously clung to my feminine principles throughout the evolution of owning my power, even when laboring physically in the ‘good-old-boy’ arena.

 

What have been some of the greatest inner gifts you’ve experienced since stepping into your feminine power?

I am so blessed and lucky! Stepping into my feminine power gave me the inspiration to forgive –myself included, and the courage to trust myself, first and foremost to have my own best answers. It gave me the pluck to drive trucks, to open my first business, to return to school, to teach assertiveness training and self-sufficiency skills, to become a gestalt group facilitator for women while working for the Department of Human Services, to write a dozen self-development books, and to ultimately step into the divine light as a women’s empowerment coach. Most profoundly, stepping into my feminine power was the sacred force which got me through the darkest tunnel as I entered and came out on the other side of the death of my son; it is this divine feminine source which resides within, that allows me to find the blessings in the mire of any event, regardless of how nefarious. It is the force and source of self-forgiveness, and of the emerging growth of my wings.

Can you share some of your favorite sacred feminine rituals?

My divine feminine toolkit overflows with goddess rituals! From being practiced in the ancient energy art of Feng Shui –which I apply to every area of my environments including my bookshelves, to reading goddess and angel tarot, to living my life by the moon cycles, to writing the books, to smudging, and to keeping the journals, sacred feminine rituals are woven through my life. My mother was a card reader, but only for herself. It never seemed odd to me to communicate with loved ones who have passed over, or to read the messages of the cards before starting out on my day, or to celebrate the seasons and give offering in gratitude. Whether burning healing incense or freeing the energy in a prosperity candle, decorating my various altars with intention, casting spells, clearing spaces, or setting new moon goals, goddess rituals are an integral part of my life that is carried down the line through my daughter and granddaughters.

Is there a particular Goddess that you are intimately drawn to and why?

Although I feel a kinship with the Buddhist Goddess Kuan Shih Yin, best known as Quan Yin, Goddess of Mercy and Companion, and with Rhiannon (whom my granddaughter is named after) I am mostly drawn to the divine goddess essence. In 1994 I opened Ruby Luna’s Angel Emporium, a small gift shop dedicated to all things goddess and angelic. Books, statues, table-top, wall-art, jewelry, gossamer clothing, music and meditation, ritual wares, and oh-so-much-more were offered; the goddess energy was palpable in that store. Everyday Goddesses gathered from around the globe to practice rituals, share secrets and wares, and to bask in the goddess energies.  I was the neighborhood “Angel Lady” to those who didn't yet realize that I was, and still am, a practicing goddess.

 

Is there a personal message that you would like to share with women?  

My life calling is to share a personal message with women, and that is, you have one purpose while on this Earth: That is to learn to love every facet of who you are. This self-love and forgiveness radiates outward into the ethers and feeds the Universe a serving of divine love that returns to feed and heal the globe and her inhabitants. It is the transformational empowering message that is woven into all my books, in my online courses, in the live group gatherings, and in all of my various levels of women’s empowerment coaching services.  Forgive yourself daily. You are worthy. Shine your brilliant light.  ♥

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Everyday GODDESS: Gina Hussar

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gina hussarGina Hussar is a Brand Stylist and Mind Mastery Expert. A former fashion magazine editor, she combines her love of aesthetics and writing with spiritual discovery to help her clients connect and convert! She is a joy junkie, bliss enthusiast, best-selling author and mom of 3 awesome kiddos!

What does being an Everyday Goddess mean to you?

Being am everyday goddess means that you know who you are, you love who you are. You’ve BEEN somewhere and its given you a deep, rich, colorful story to own and to share. Everyday goddesses balance the blessings and opportunities of life with grace and gratitude. We allow ourselves to be led by joy, knowing that when joy comes first, love, wealth, health and abundance are never far behind. And we lift and support other women with a sister-like loyalty!

 

At what age did you awaken to the presence of the Divine Feminine and would you describe it as a sudden awakening or a gentle unfolding?

It was VERY sudden for me. I think it was always there, just under the surface, whispering to me to let it out. But it took a rock bottom for me to finally fling the door open and I was in the my mid 30’s at the time. Sometimes you have to hit the floor before those whispers become screams you can no longer ignore. NOW it continues to unfold beautifully and gracefully and I am loving the ongoing journey of self discovery!

 

What roles in your life had to transform in order for you to live authentically?

I had to connect with my spirit as a RULE. It had to become a part of my life. I learned that leading by spirit can completely change every area of your life. Spirit became my most lucrative business strategy. But most importantly I had to get responsible. SO often we are miserable because we haven’t accepted our power. That’s all responsibility is—power! People think of the word “responsibility” and it feels heavy. But it shouldn’t! It should feel empowering! Being responsible means that YOU get to hold the magic wand and make things happen. That was a huge shift for me, in business, in my marriage, my friendships, everywhere!

 

What have been some of the greatest inner gifts you’ve experienced since stepping into your feminine power?

I have learned to process everything in a way that serves me. No more ego storytelling, only truth. I am always looking for the miracle or the message underneath every challenge. You have to dig deep sometimes but its always there. And I always choose the fastest path to peace. Nothing, not even the last word, not even being right, not even being heard, is more important to me than joy and peace.

Can you share some of your favorite sacred feminine rituals?

I am a big believer that sacred feminine rituals do not have to be anything grandiose. For me, a sacred feminine ritual is anything that makes you feel amazing. That can be a deep meditation by candlelight or a night on the couch with a glass of wine and Oprah. =) I do try to keep a manifestation journal every single day and that is incredibly powerful. I am amazed at what I have been able to attract (and really specific things too!) just be committing to one minute a day of putting the law of attraction in order. One minute a day of focused, positive energy streaming out into the universe. Sounds woo woo, totally works.

I also always check in with myself (at least three times a day) to make sure I am staying in peace. I cannot even put into words how that has changed my life. When YOU can stay in peace no matter what, everyone around you gets inspired to do the same.

Is there a particular Goddess that you are intimately drawn to and why?

Honestly? I love them all. There are energies to all of them that we could all tap into and embody when we need them. That’s the beauty of it. We have all of these gorgeous, juicy, feminine powers that we can unleash every day, all day, as we need them to work for us.

 

Is there a personal message that you would like to share with women?  

Get responsible. Have an honest conversation with yourself about where YOU can get empowered. Pay attention to what upsets you. It’s a strong message of something you need to change, face or take charge of. And the good news is that you have everything you need to do just that!

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Dance Like No One’s Watching: Lessons from A Year of Transformation

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butterfly transformationI had coffee with a local magazine publisher and friend today.  She commented on how much I've changed in the last year. How my talks have become more authentic and real.

“It must be because you've finally realized you're an expert,” she said.

“No,” I said. “It has to do with me becoming me.”

Like a caterpillar turning into a butterfly, the last year has been one of incredible transformation for me.

Fall 2013 was my hibernation period. Newly divorced, I was on crutches for 4 months followed by 6 weeks in a walking boot. Given my limited mobility, I dove into developing my on-line presence, blogging, launching two websites, and writing articles for magazines. I spent a great deal of time journaling, reflecting. But it wasn’t enough.

My Goddess Wisdom blog has always been a cleansing for me, a purging of whatever I am working through at the time of writing. And what I learned last Fall was that I am great at introspection and giving advice. I am not, however, so good at taking it – even my own. So while I wrote blogs about the lessons I was learning, the transformations I was experiencing, it was more from a third-party perspective. As though it didn’t apply to me.

And so, I did not heal. The Universe wanted me to start listening to and taking my own advice. It took me until January of 2014 to figure that out.

January 2014 was a turning point in my transformation. I was no longer dormant, but I wasn’t ready to emerge from my cocoon yet either. For 23 years I had been in denial about my eating disorder. It took a good friend getting in my face and confronting me about it for me to admit that I had a problem. Having learned in Fall 2013 that fighting against the Universe and ‘talking the talk’ doesn’t work nearly as well allowing and ‘walking the walk,’ I dove headfirst into recovery. I hired a therapist, psychiatrist, and nutritionist. And over the course of Spring 2014, they helped me put myself back together. Helped me realize that although I fell apart, shattered, in Fall of 2013, I had the choice of which pieces of my life – of me – I wanted to pick back up. And, most importantly, that I needed to take exquisite care of myself if I wanted to have the opportunity to choose.

About a month ago, I emerged from my cocoon. I’m not quite sure when it happened, what ultimately changed for me. But somewhere along the way I decided to give myself permission to be me. To stop trying to please everyone else and just be. To dance to the beat of a different drummer. And that everything would be okay. If people didn’t like the new me, then I’d wish them well and send them off with blessings. If what I said didn’t resonate with them, they could choose not to listen. That what other people thought about me really wasn’t my concern.

And when that happened, my world shifted on its axis. I started dancing again – my boyfriend introduced me to ecstatic dancing (it’s like clubbing without the alcohol and cheesy pick-up lines). I started belly dancing again. I learned how to revel in my amazing body, learned how sexy it could be. I stopped coloring my hair – grey stripe be damned. I started dressing to flaunt my assets instead of hiding them. I stopped trying to please everyone because ultimately the only person you can please is yourself.

And you know what happened? I started getting compliments on how real and natural I was. How I was so moving and passionate about what I do. About how watching my transformation had helped give other women the courage to do the same. I attracted a wonderful man in my life – someone so different from anyone I’ve ever known before – so refreshing. Someone who loves me for me and appreciates me for who I am rather than what I do. And I started loving my life again. All of it – every bump, hill, and valley.

Do I still have bad days? Of course! We all do. But now when the Universe nudges me, I laugh. I sing. I cry. I dance like no one’s watching. And I learn. Oh, how powerfully do I learn.

What have you learned this past year? Are you ready to emerge from your cocoon yet? Share your thoughts below.

 

 

 

 

Everyday GODDESS: Kellie Stone

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kellie stoneIn her quest to be a sacred guide for women on their journey of self-discovery, Kellie R. Stone is an avid student of life. She is a spiritual life coach and intuitive reader who received her certification through renowned spiritual life and business coach, Karen Coffey. As a writer, you’ll discover many of her published articles on Womenslifelink.com, Livestrong.com, Allthingschic.com, Timefindersmagazine.com, Coffeytalk.com, Goddesslifestyleplan.com, and many other blogs and e-zines.

What does being an Everyday Goddess mean to you?

I feel that being an everyday Goddess is a state of mind and spirit that brings the importance of the feminine to the forefront with confidence, love, nurturing, and empowerment. This understanding of self brings a powerful energy to the planet as we are in a shifting culture and consciousness.

At what age did you awaken to the presence of the Divine Feminine and would you describe it as a sudden awakening or a gentle unfolding?

I feel that I became aware of my feminine power recently in my forties. Though I’ve always felt a distinct pull from spirit and universal energy, I was on a path that did not allow for exploration of my truth and authenticity. The freedom I feel now has served me in so many ways, including self-confidence, purpose, authenticity, and connections to others.

What roles in your life had to transform in order for you to live authentically?

I had to stop continually living for and making decisions based on what others thought of me. Though I still have tendencies to analyze my actions and thoughts, my life has changed from the inside out. I now value myself and self-care enough that it takes priority. I feel that I have much more work to do in this area, however.

What have been some of the greatest inner gifts you’ve experienced since stepping into your feminine power?

I have experienced a huge shift in my attitude about myself. I believe that I am worthy of love and happiness. I also know that I have the power to change my life and to affect the world. I realize that there are no limitations to my growth and change.

Can you share some of your favorite sacred feminine rituals?

I have really been enjoying dancing and movement lately. It is helping me to connect to my sensual side and to my body in a way that brings about confidence and self-love. I also love to connect to nature, animals, and spirit. This allows me to be present and bring myself to a more centered state.

 

Is there a particular Goddess that you are intimately drawn to and why?

Though I am just now getting familiar with Goddesses, I do feel most drawn to the Indian Goddesses, Saraswati and Durga. Saraswati is one who shows me that I have a voice and how important it is that I use it to create love, peace, and growth in the world. Durga shows me that I am powerful and have the ability to fight for our world and myself.

 

Is there a personal message that you would like to share with women?  

My message to women is one of empowerment and clarity. I want them to know that they can be everything they’ve dreamed of being, that they can fulfill their dreams, define purpose and live happily. I believe that creating an improved mindset is the first key to transformation for every area of life. We are the only ones who will ultimately change our lives.

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