Last week a good friend of mine told me she was shutting down her online business. After seven years of pouring her heart and soul into this online venture, she feels that she's no more successful today than she was the day she started.
I completely understand and I think many of us in this online arena are feeling the crunch right now. Things have changed quite a bit in the past several years. Five years ago, the idea of being an online solopreneur was really just starting to make headway. Today there are so many coaches out there. Our numbers are growing steadily day by day and many of us are doing very similar things. At the end of the day sometimes it may feel like what we are doing as one individual coach doesn't really matter.
I can't tell you whether an online business adventure is a good idea for you or not. That's not my purpose here. My point is this: whatever decision you're trying to make in life – be it a career change, a relationship, a move across country – it is your decision. No one can make it for you.
There is also no timeline by which you need to make this big decision. I get that there may be deadlines involved, external forces asking you to make a decision by a certain date. But here's the thing: you're ready when you're ready – no sooner, no later.
And trust my advice on this one: when it comes to making a big life decision about whether to shut down your online business, to get engaged, to have a baby, etc.: Give yourself plenty of time to make the decision – no pressure.
And while you're at it,
Why? Because life doesn't always happen as planned or in a timely fashion. Because you need to do what's best for you and it's hard to think under pressure. Because sometimes things just take time.
I invite you to give yourself permission not only to take the time to make your decisions, but to live the life you always wanted – Dream Big.
My boyfriend and I were doing our grocery shopping the other day and he said something to a friend of mine we ran into that really struck me. She asked him if I was taking care of me or if I was working too much as usual. She knew I was just coming off a semester where I was working 50 to 60 hour weeks trying to get it all done and keep it all together. My boyfriend shook his head and replied, “No; she doesn't ask for permission from anybody. She just goes and does it.”
Permission. That's an interesting word, isn't it?
As June is my month of self-care, I decided maybe I did need permission, but I was going to be the one to give it. Not to anyone in particular, but to myself.
I decided to create a permission list for myself. Something I can hang up on the wall and look at every day and remind myself of what I'm doing here. So I'm sharing my permission list with you in the hopes that it inspires you to make one of your own.
I give myself permission to:
- Be true to me always
- Listen to, trust and follow my intuition
- Live whole heartedly
- Have fun
- Be me and do whatever I want to do
- Spend money in ways that make sense to me
- Take time off to rest, recharge and recuperate
- Fall more deeply in love with my soul's mate
- Express myself freely and creatively in whatever ways I want to
- Follow my heart