“I’m thinking about quitting my job,” a client said to me, “and I’m scared to death.” She’s been an accountant for 25 years. It’s all she’s ever known, career wise – at least since she entered adulthood. And yet, at 45, she’s seriously considering giving it up. Why? It’s not who she feels like she is anymore – not who she wants to be, moving forward.
“Am I just having a midlife crisis?” she asked me.
“No,” I reassured her. In the year we’ve been working together, I’ve gotten to know her pretty well. “You’re just finally coming home to yourself.”
When I start working with my private clients, I lead them through a mini-VIP Day where we go through what got them to this point, what they most want, and then set goals for our time working together. A year ago, I asked Sherri what she most wanted to do in life, what her big dream was – no holds barred – and she answered without hesitation, “I want to write romance novels.” You might have had a similar thought when it came to my next question, “Why are you an accountant then?” She shrugged. “Family business.” Her father is an accountant, as was his father. Two of her siblings are accountants. It was just assumed she would follow along in the family footsteps, and so she did.
But after working together for a year, Sherri’s beginning to understand a few things about herself: she actually doesn’t like accounting. She’s good at it; she’s made a great living at it; yet, it doesn’t nourish her Soul. And so, she’s finding herself in this place of not knowing what to do or where to go. She asking herself the tough question: “Who would I be if I wasn’t an accountant?” The beautiful thing is that she’s finally giving herself permission to answer that question. Is it scary? Absolutely. But she realizes that if she doesn’t allow herself to explore that question, she’ll always feel stagnant, less than, like she’s missing out on something bigger.
As we come to the end of the first month of 2017, I invite you to reflect on where you are, where you’re going, and where you want to be. 2017 is a year of new beginnings, and for some of you, it might be the year you finally come home to yourself – whatever that means for you.
If you’re feeling resistance to that idea of coming home to yourself or to even the idea of exploring what that might mean for you, I want to share something with you:
I give you permission. I give you permission to take care of yourself while you figure things out.
Facing questions about identity and life purpose aren’t easy. Many of us struggle with the idea of even allowing ourselves to explore those questions.
But know this:
If you want a little more support around answering these tough questions, I invite you to sign up for my free 7-Day Love Your Body, Nourish Your Temple Challenge. For me, it all comes back to self-care: you need to take exquisite care of you as you explore coming home to yourself, getting to know yourself and what you truly want in life. Come and be supported. Join us.