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Coming Back to Myself: Setting My Intentions

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waterlily and moon in starry night - magic backgroundA couple of years ago when I had adrenal fatigue, a good friend of mine gave me some sage advice: “Give yourself more breathing room than you think you need.” As soon as I healed my adrenal fatigue, I promptly forgot her words of wisdom.

As I ended my Spring and Summer semesters sick and exhausted a few weeks ago, I saw her quote I had printed out and put on my wall 2 years ago. It has become my mantra once again: Give yourself more breathing room than you think you need.

More importantly, I’ve been trying to figure out why I keep forgetting to give myself breathing room. I think it comes down to this: I, like many, at some level define my sense of self-worth by my accomplishments. To be successful, I was taught, you have to work hard, skip vacation days, and work some more. That’s how you succeed in life. There’s a fundamental flaw in that logic though: if you run yourself ragged 24-7, 365 days a year, you may accomplish things, but you will also likely burn yourself out.

I recently read a blog post by my friend and fellow Everyday Goddess Jodi Chapman about success. In it, Jodi discusses how her current definition of success has more to do with how she feels (e.g., happy, calm) and how she prioritizes her time doing things she loves (traveling, spending quality time with loved ones, etc.) than more tradition financial- or promotion-based definitions of success.

Her words inspired me to think about my own definition of success. I, too, got caught up in defining success through accolades, promotions, and financial gains. But that hasn’t made me happy. It’s left me exhausted.

When I finished my semester, my friend Paula texted me: You need to get back to you. She’s right. I do need to get back to me. Moreover, I need to figure out what I want.

As I write this, it is the Summer Solstice in the Northern Hemisphere. It’s the perfect day to really reflect on how my year is going. I plan to spend the afternoon revisiting the intentions I set for myself in January, to first determine if these goals and aspirations still even apply, and then to ascertain where I am in the process. But using Jodi’s definition of success as a new guidepost, I plan to also set some intentions for the rest of the year – not productivity goals, per se, but rather, aspirations focused on feeling and intention.

Let me explain. I was watching the opening session of Woman Unleashed Season 4 with Amber Bonnici and she said something that really resonated with me.  She asked us to set our intention for the retreat as to how we want to feel as we go on this retreat together. I think this is a wonderful idea and that we should set not just our intentions for Women Unleashed 4, but for our lives each day. 

Danielle LaPorte talks about how she sets her New Year's Resolutions. She decides how she wants to feel each year and then takes aligned actions to make sure she feels that way. Amber's statement about setting intentions reminded me of that.  

But I want to take this one step further. My intention for the rest of the summer is to practice feeling-based intention setting every day. When I wake up, I will to set an intention for the day. I will then periodically check in with myself and my intention as I go throughout my day to make sure that, as often as possible, I am acting in alignment with my intention for the day.

and periodically throughout the day asked ourselves if we were acting in alignment with that intention?  I get that not every day is a day of yours to craft 100% on your own – we have jobs, children, etc. But wouldn't it be nice if we could spend at least some time each day going back to the intentions we set for ourselves for that day? Checking in with how we want to feel and it taking action steps to make ourselves feel that way?

I think it'll be an interesting experiment for myself and for anyone who wants to join me. Are you in?

The Power of Intention

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As we close one year and move into the next, it’s important to set intentions for the year ahead. Not resolutions, per se, but goals for how you want to be this year. Along with that, I think it’s important to set a theme for the year: something to remind you of your intentions for the year ahead. My intention for 2016? To be discerning in how I spend my time, energy, and money.

What does that mean? No more giving from my cup. No more spending money on things I want but don’t need until my debt is paid off. No more going along with what others want to please them. No more wasting my time and energy on people who drain me.

2016 will be the year I check in with me on a regular basis. The year I prioritize my self-care. The year I become financially savvy.

My Intentions for 2016

  • Give from my overflow
  • Act from a place of love in all things, beginning with love for myself
  • Learn to receive
  • Make financially savvy decisions
  • Give myself permission to be me and know that, in every moment, I am enough
  • Take evenings and weekends off
  • Have more fun
  • Go on an actual vacation, or two or three…
  • Listen to my intuition
  • Check in with myself regularly (at least once a day) to see how I am feeling and what I need
  • Be honest with myself
  • Let down my heart wall and let more love in
  • Be the best version of me I can be
  • Check in with my angels and guides on a daily basis to make sure I am living to my fullest potential
  • Prioritize the things that are important to me rather than allowing others to set my priorities
  • Set boundaries to keep myself healthy and sane
  • Spend more time in nature
  • Learn a new skill
  • Challenge myself a little bit every day – comfort zones are highly overrated
  • Be true to myself in thought, word, and deed – time to speak my truth and walk in my power
  • Love my body and myself
  • Trust my intuition
  • Take my company to new heights
  • Allow financial abundance to flow in like water, easily and effortlessly
  • Do daily, weekly, monthly and quarterly check ins with my Leonie Dawson Life and Business Planner workbooks
  • Allow myself to fall in love – with myself, my life, my man
  • Give full measure – time to get out or go all in for the things that really matter to me
  • Go back to daily meditation, morning and night
  • Move my body in ways that I love every day – whether that be running, yoga, lifting weights, belly dance, hiking in the foothills with my dogs, or a new way of movement that I have yet to find
  • Explore life and my sexuality
  • Heal, process, and grow – life is nothing but a lesson, an evolution to becoming a better version of me
  • Laugh more and enjoy life
  • Be more grateful for all that I have, all that I am, and all that I am becoming

(Be sure to phrase these positively and read them often.)

 

 

Spring is Here!

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spring

I love Spring! It's my favorite season. Not only are the flowers blooming and the weather warming, but I just feel more vibrant – as though I am coming out of a deep slumber.

Spring equinox is a time for fertility and planting the seeds, physical and metaphorical, you wish to harvest in Summer. But before we do that, we must first get closure over what we learned in Winter.

Winter is the time to go within, to hibernate, to be still. If you're anything like me, the holidays are often wrought with ‘issues' that make you rethink your life. I don't know about you, but I'd rather not have these ‘issues' from Winter mucking up my time for growth in Spring. So let's do a little release ceremony, shall we?

Getting Closure on Winter

Take out your journal and answer the following questions:

  • What issues came up for me in the Winter months that I may have not fully dealt with (e.g., holiday conflict, death of a loved one, fight with your significant other)?
  • How has this issue affected my life and the way I see myself?
  • What lessons did I learn about myself having been through these experiences?
  • What am I ready to release (e.g., what do I not want to carry forward into Spring with me)?
  • Is there anything else I feel I need to say or do to get closure on Winter?

Embracing Spring

Here's the fun part! Take out a new piece of paper and answer these questions:

  • What do I want to create in Spring 2015?
  • What do I want to have accomplished by Summer 2015?
  • What do I want to have accomplished by December 2015?
  • What will allow me to accomplish these things?
  • How do I want to feel this Spring?

Intention Setting Ritual:

You have two options here (probably more than two, but this is what came to me for now):

1) Burn the closure list, saying, “I bless you and release you into the light” 3 times.

Then burn the embracing list, saying, “Goddess/God/Great Spirit, I ask for your help in meeting my intentions. Please send to me whatever opportunities will help me meet my goals and please take away that which would distract. I embrace my new way of being (say the last sentence 3 times).”

2) Get two helium balloons – one black and one whatever color you prefer that makes you think of Spring. Tie the closure list to the black balloon and release the balloon (and your list) to the sky, saying, “I bless you and release you into the light” 3 times.

Tie the embracing list to the other balloon and release it, saying, “Goddess/God/Great Spirit, I ask for your help in meeting my intentions. Please send to me whatever opportunities will help me meet my goals and please take away that which would distract. I embrace my new way of being (say the last sentence 3 times).”

If you get stuck at any point, call upon the Goddess Ostara for help.

 

Now go enjoy the first day of Spring!