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Rolling in the Deep: Taking Inventory of Your Life

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OceanAs I sit in my backyard enjoying the sunshine and 70 degree weather, I realize that Fall is here. I harvested most of my garden this past weekend as the colder nighttime temps were beginning to have a negative effect on my veggies. Today I find myself in a reflective mood, as though it is time for me to harvest my emotions in preparation for the coming Winter.

So I’ve decided to take stock of my life. My 2014.

I vowed in late January that 2014 was going to be the Year of Me. I did a good job keeping my vow for the first 6 months. Then I met Rio and found myself falling back on old patterns of putting my man before me. Taking care of his needs before mine.

And I’ve paid the price. I met with my hormone doctor last week. He confirmed that I was in early perimenopause, but said that it was my own doing. When you burn the candle at both ends for too long, your hormones shut down. He gave me a month to get my butt in gear; three months to get my menstrual cycles back to normal.

That was a wake-up call for me. I know how powerful stress can be and what it can do to your body if you let it. But, once again, I failed to take my own advice. I promised myself I would take care of me when “things settled down;” of course, they never did. The past few months have been a whirlwind of personal crises. And I did what I do best in the midst of crisis: hunker down and get it done.

What I didn’t get “done” was taking care of me.

I decided to treat my self-induced perimenopause like an illness. If I had a condition, like mono or the flu, what would I be doing (or what wouldn’t I be doing)?

  • I stopped lifting weights and stopped running – no use wasting what little energy I have right now on exercise. This is temporary – a two-week moratorium. I am still taking my daily walks with the canine kiddos, but those aren’t exactly heart rate elevating.
  • I started meditating again – 10 min at night last week. I am upping it to 15 minutes at night and 5-10 min in the morning this week.
  • I restarted my daily check-ins – I am asking myself where I am physically and emotionally when I wake up each morning and then checking in with what I need to fill up those energy tanks throughout the day. For example, I got home this morning a little after 10am from an appointment and my intuition told me to take a bath and do some journaling, so I did.
  • I’m diving deep – Fall is the perfect time for reflection, for going within. I’ve been spending some time each day journaling about everything that’s happened thus far in 2014 – where I am compared to where I want to be. This is hard for me to do as it involves dealing with some painful things head on, but by not dealing with them, I am only prolonging my suffering. So I might as well get it out of the way now so I can truly prepare for a restful and fun Winter.
  • I’m calling on Kali, Goddess of Empowerment, to help me through this process – I typically draw one of Doreen Virtue’s Goddess Oracle cards each morning and I drew Kali this morning. I thought She was an appropriate Goddess to be calling on right now. Kali is the Goddess of Interpersonal Strength, Self-Awareness, and Inner Knowing. She encourages us to let go of what no longer serves so that we can begin again.

What are you doing to prepare for Fall and Winter? What do you still need to process and perhaps let go of between now and the start of the New Year?





Getting In Touch with My Roots

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root chakraAs I shared last week, after a recent session with a spiritual healer, I’ve been called to explore the energies of my body’s chakra system, beginning with the root (1st) chakra.

The Root, or Muladhara, Chakra is the seat of our bodies. It’s quite literally our roots. The word mula means “root” or “source” and the word adhara means “support.” So our root chakra is the source of our support – mentally, physically, and spiritually.

When I was studying Psychology as an undergraduate, we learned about Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Maslow argued that we all strive for something he called self-actualization (our true potential), but that most of us never get there because our more mundane, basic needs never get met. And it’s hard to concentrate on our soul’s purpose when we’re hungry, unemployed, and don’t have a roof over our heads.

At the core of Maslow’s hierarchy were our physiological needs: food, water, air, sleep, things that allow our bodies to function normally. Next in the hierarchy was safety and security in all of their levels: health, home, job, resources, etc.

And that’s what the root chakra represents, the idea that we cannot achieve enlightenment, we cannot ascend if we aren’t getting our basic needs met. And, according to my inner goddess, I haven’t been. Yes, I’ve been eating and sleeping pretty well, but in the midst of my divorce and move, my sense of safety and security in home, finances, and myself flew out the window.

I’ve been taking note of this and working through past and more recent feelings of insecurity and dis-ease with my environment. I’ve been painting (see above for my rendition of the Muladhara Chakra) and meditating and working through chakra healing books (Mona Lisa Schulz and Brenda Davies offer some excellent resources for chakra healing).

I’ve come to realize that for me, my feelings of insecurity stem from childhood. According to Brenda Davies, our root chakra develops between birth and 5 years of age, so it makes sense that those with root chakra imbalances may have unresolved issues from early in life. She also argues that each chakra cycles in 30 year increments – so any unhealed root chakra issues will appear again between 30 and 34 and 60 and 64. My early 30s marked a time when I was dealing with endometriosis and infertility, issues deeply rooted in what I thought it meant to be a woman. No wonder I felt insecure!

But as I have grown, matured, and reconnected with my inner goddess, I appear to be having some of these root issues reappear in my life, issues that I thought I had healed but had not. Hence, my breaking my heel (the very root of my body twice in the past year).

This time, I am taking the time to work through these issues, to heal my heel, body, mind, and any lingering insecurities. Once again, I called upon the Goddess for her help. Kali’s message has come through loud and clear again for me: “Power does not always come from acquisition; sometimes it comes from knowing when to let go. Call upon me when you are faced with uncertainty.” In my case, I am letting go of my marriage, my disappointments in things I wanted in that relationship that never came to pass, my ability to control my own body’s healing. I am calling upon Kali’s strength, awareness, and inner knowing to get me through my recent endings and beginnings. And through this process, my roots will only become stronger, will take root (literally) and flourish. For that I am grateful. It’s like getting a second chance in life.

If you too find yourself dealing with old (or new) issues of safety and security, or if you have some unresolved issues you need to heal and let go of, I encourage you to do some 1st chakra healing work and call upon Kali to help in this process. As the Dark of the Moon (waning crescent) is upon us, any rituals you do surrounding release at this time will be that much more powerful, allowing you to attract new elements of safety and security into your life as the wheel turns and the New Moon grows into Full over the next two weeks.    

Next week we’ll discuss the second chakra. Until then, happy releasing and healing!

Featured GODDESS: Kali

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Graceful nude female folded in red silk shawl outdoorsKali

Goddess of Empowerment 

“Power does not always come from acquisition; sometimes it comes from knowing when to let go. Call upon me when you are faced with uncertainty.”


Traits Kali Embodies:

  • Strength
  • Awareness
  • Inner knowing
  • Letting go of what no longer serves
  • Beginnings and endings


How to call on Kali:

As a Mother Goddess, Kali is fiercely protective, but she doesn’t believe in facing adversity with violence; rather she encourages us to rely on our inner strength and wisdom to know when to press forward and when to let go. To honor Kali, stop forcing things that are simply not meant to be. Call on her to help guide you when faced with transitions in your life.


Prayer to Kali:

 [Note: you may desire to recite this prayer while clapping or stomping to raise your vibration]


Kali, Kali, Kali,

Knower of the Unknown

Seer of the Unseen

Grant me but a small portion of your Knowledge and Sight

Help me to Know what I need to Know

Help me to See what I need to See

Help me to Know when to Move Forward and When to Let Go

To Honor Your Wisdom and Guidance and act in the best interests of All

Kali, Kali, Kali,

Hear my Prayer.

 [Thank the Goddess and wait for her answer. Know that it may not appear immediately, but ma come to you in hours or days in the form of insight or inspiration or in a dream.]


Tribute to Kai:

As a tribute to Kali, and as a symbol of your willingness to let go of what no longer serves, write down your troubles and burn them, knowing that she will hear your call and answer you.