The holidays are a difficult time of year for many of us, and this Christmas marked the first time in 6 years that I didn’t cry. Christmas was my father’s favorite holiday and, since his passing 6.5 years ago, it has served as a reminder of him. But this year was different. This year I made a decision to celebrate the holiday season like I used to do when I was a child. I went to see the Christmas trees at Festival of Trees. I drug my boyfriend out in single digit weather to see the botanical gardens lit up with Christmas lights. I gave myself permission not to decorate my house or cook a ‘real’ Christmas dinner. Instead, I made bison burgers, wilted kale salad and sweet potato oven-baked fries with my best friend. And never once did I think, “I should be doing more to celebrate the holidays.”
But often, the holidays seem to remind us of how “not enough” we are. How we should be “do-ing” the holiday season, with all its fanfare and parties, better somehow. We should make more cookies, have a bigger or better decorated tree, out-do the neighbors with our lawn décor, buy our kids better presents or more of them …
A few years ago I had a client who could not seem to get over the “not enoughness” issues that the holidays seem to trigger in her. She pushed herself so hard that she ended up in the hospital and wasn’t even able to enjoy all of the Christmas food she painstakingly prepared, the house she decorated to be worthy of landing on the pages of Martha Stewart’s magazine. She just knew everyone would have a horrible time if she didn’t do everything they were used to. I knew her kids and her grandkids. The reality was this: they didn’t care about the Christmas decorations or the extra pies. Yes, the enjoyed them, but what they really valued was having the whole family together at Christmas. June could have easily saved herself a trip to the hospital that year, but her Inner Mean Girl wasn’t having anything less than a “perfect” Christmas.
In the Facebook group, we’ve been discussing what we are leaving in 2015 and what we will create in 2016. Many of us talked about leaving our fears behind, our feelings of unworthiness, and most of all, our “not enoughness” in 2015.
How about you?
If so, I invite you to join us for our free call series this month so you can fully and finally release your “not enoughness” issues and Activate the Goddess I know you are! Go here to sign up.